She blocked me...

[Thulsadoom]

Dear everyone

 

I am new here.

 

I have a pale yet heart piercing tale to tell....

 

I met her in the gym earlier this year. We clicked and over time we would smile at eachother or say hi or I would crack a silly little joke to which she would laugh at.

 

I could sense there was tension going on. Even my personal trainer in the gym asked her if Ive spoken to her. She told him if I talk to her she would go out with me.

 

I never had the courage to ask her on some sort of date in person. I foolishly decided to ask her on facebook. She just replied with "see you around in the gym:)"

 

I would talk with her a bit when I see her she would be very sweet to me.

 

Eventually. A month ago I told her that I liked her via facebook to which she didn't reply.....I made another foolish mistake and asked her on facebook (not in person) if it's obvious that I have a crush on her and begged her to to freak out.

 

She replied back telling me about he ex boyfriend is being investigated by the police and she's had a hard time because of it and asking for space and asking me not to take her message personally.

 

I promised her I would leave her alone and I did. I did not talk to her again I have not even looked at her again.

 

However to my ultimate suprise I find that she blocked me on facebook 2 days after her message above.

[Thulsadoom]

Continued...

 

I feel like I upset her by telling her I like her....

 

I feel like a rotten rabid dog

 

I made her feel awkward?

 

Now we are not even frendly in the gym anymore. She just ignores me as though I am a flee on her back

 

I am so hurt.

[Kelley]

Don't take it personally she is just in a bad place at the moment and is not interested. At least you asked and now you know. If she is not mature enough to be friendly at the gym that is her problem not yours. Don't beat yourself up, you took the risk and it didn't pay off this time. Next time it might with someone else and you will be glad you did!

[MrBojangles]

Could it be that you misread her intentions, or that your personal trainer was playing a cruel joke on you?

 

Approaching her on Facebook was definitely not a very bold or confident move on your part, but it sounds like she may not have been interested. She probably thinks you are a creep by approaching her on FB.

 

I'd just move on, there are plenty of eligible and available ladies out there to meet.

[Thulsadoom]

^It's so hard approaching her in the gym as she's in her "own bubble" as she told me.

 

It's what's torturing me inside is I never meant to be a creep....I begged her not be creeped out she told me it's ok. I don't want her to think I'm a creepy bad person.

 

I told her on the fb message that I am really shy. She said it's ok.

 

I have left her completely alone and have not and will not talk to her ever again. I just feel she has a bad idea about me.

I want to just apologize to her for making her feel awkward and being wierd on facebook

[JewelD]

^It's so hard approaching her in the gym as she's in her "own bubble" as she told me.

 

It's what's torturing me inside is I never meant to be a creep....I begged her not be creeped out she told me it's ok. I don't want her to think I'm a creepy bad person.

 

I told her on the fb message that I am really shy. She said it's ok.

 

I have left her completely alone and have not and will not talk to her ever again. I just feel she has a bad idea about me.

I want to just apologize to her for making her feel awkward and being wierd on facebook

 

Look, you're just making it worse. How did you find her fb? Were you and her already fb friends?

 

You should have taken her lack of response the first time as a 'no'. The second response made you seem creepy. and telling her not to freak out means you KNEW it was creepy and would probably freak her out. and you still sent it.

 

It doesn't matter what she thinks of you at this point. You will not fix it by continuing to contact her when she has asked for space and blocked you. She does not want to talk to you, let this one go. Forever.

[elaine567]

If she has an "crazy", criminal ex, did it not cross your mind that HE may be viewing her FB messages, hence the non-committal reply and her blocking you.

 

YOU had the perfect opportunity to speak to this girl and get to know her at the gym. Even if she was in "a bubble", all you needed to do was ask her if she wanted a coffee or a drink. Even if the gym has no cafe type facilities, then you could have hung out beside the machine or gone to a nearby coffee shop/bar afterwards. All you needed to do was ramp up what was already there, but taking this to social media was a step too far and as others said a bit creepy. Did she actually add you as a friend or did you just find her on there?

 

Anyway if she is still involved in some way with her ex, then best to just stay clear.

[Thulsadoom]

^ Thank you for your replies everyone.

 

Yes we were friends on facebook already.

 

I feel so terrible. I had NO IDEA about her ex boyfriend. She only told me after my message. If i had known I swear by God I would not have approached her like that.

 

I am in my early 30s and I have never been in a relationship before (I come from a traditional culture). Ive never approached a woman before. I hardly talk to women.

 

I only hope she will find it in her heart to not hate me

 

I will look to myself and change and try forgive myself for creeping her.

 

I will leave her alone. Forever. As I promised her I would.

 

I have learnt a big lesson from this.

[MrBojangles]

^ Thank you for your replies everyone.

 

Yes we were friends on facebook already.

 

I feel so terrible. I had NO IDEA about her ex boyfriend. She only told me after my message. If i had known I swear by God I would not have approached her like that.

 

I am in my early 30s and I have never been in a relationship before (I come from a traditional culture). Ive never approached a woman before. I hardly talk to women.

 

I only hope she will find it in her heart to not hate me

 

I will look to myself and change and try forgive myself for creeping her.

 

I will leave her alone. Forever. As I promised her I would.

 

I have learnt a big lesson from this.

 

 

Don't beat yourself up over this, what's done is done.. I've made my share of awkward approaches before, and misread many women in my lifetime. What really matters, is that we learn from these situations, and not give up.

 

This woman likely does not "hate" you, although she may have been a bit spooked by the FB communications. Just continue working out at the gym, and absolutely do not apologize to her any further.

[Satu]

Try not to be so hard on yourself.

 

You've not done anything that caused any damage to anyone.

 

 

Take care.

[Thulsadoom]

Thank you for your advices to everyone.

 

I crossed paths with her in the gym twice since then and I feel so ashamed I quickly turned away. I can't bring myself to be in her presence. I am anxious going to the gym now. I don't want her to feel uncomfortable because of me.

 

Should I leave this gym and join a different one?

[JewelD]

Thank you for your advices to everyone.

 

I crossed paths with her in the gym twice since then and I feel so ashamed I quickly turned away. I can't bring myself to be in her presence. I am anxious going to the gym now. I don't want her to feel uncomfortable because of me.

 

Should I leave this gym and join a different one?

 

Since you feel anxious, you could do that. It's up to you. If you can go to this gym, not speak to her and feel okay about it, then stay. If she really feels uncomfortable, she will probably leave the gym herself, or go at a time she knows you won't be there. How small is this gym? I imagine you can both go and workout without coming into contact with each other.