Sex with the ex

[notmel]

My life just gets curiouser and curiouser. I am rapidly approaching the 2nd anniversary of the separation of my bride and myself. I will not bore you with all the details I have posted previously on other threads and they are there for anyone who is interested. 5 months after I asked my wife to leave she showed up on my doorstep , she only lives a block away. She has been returning like clock work for NSA sex once or twice a month ever since. It's all a big secret on her part no one knows but me and she. I have no complaints because it's pretty much always an awesome romp but it does kind of get in the way with moving forward. She really shows little interest in reconciliation and when I invite her on date like activities she pretty much always declines. Has anyone else had this kind of situation develop your comments insights and observations and advice are always appreciated

[Mi7522]

I have just had this happen to me over the weekend, my ex and I broke up about two months ago but we own a house together. I have been spending the weekends at our house but during the week at my parents as she has two kids and the less i'm around the better for them. This past weekend I asked her if she wanted to go for dinner and drinks one last time since I would be moving all my belongings out of the house next weekend and it would be the last time she saw me. She obviously declined and I went about my business.

The next morning she came up to me and said that we could continue having sex but not until I was emotionally disconnected from her. I was a little shocked and asked her what she meant, she just walked away. Needless to say we ended up together the rest of the weekend.

Now she is telling me she does not want me to move my stuff out this weekend. I am very confused as to what she is up to now.

[notmel]

I'm guessing she is more than a little confused herself.You have a pretty complex dynamic going on with step children shared home ownership and all. Sex is the glue that can keep a lot of dysfunctional situations together. Break ups are expensive on so many different levels. If you can talk without screaming at each other and listen I saw give it a shot.

[Michelle ma Belle]

I have not gone back to read your previous post but reading this one begs the question; what is it YOU want?

[notmel]

I have not gone back to read your previous post but reading this one begs the question; what is it YOU want?

 

Michelle, And he lived happily ever after is that too much to ask for? In many respects it's every mans dream situation, but then I'm not every man. My guy friends when I explain the situation just smile and say lucky you, but it really means I am stuck in limbo as far as my life is concerned and moving forward. I have zero problem meeting great women who are interested in starting a relationship and I can keep them at bay for a reasonable period by pleading celibacy which is of course a lie which I am sort of conflicted about.As I said my life just gets curiouser and curiouser the further down the rabbit hole I go.

[sandylee1]

Well your Ex has made it more than clear that she doesn't want to reconcile and is only interested in NSA sex. If you want more and this is keeping you in limbo and preventing you moving on ...... you need to put a stop to it.

 

You can start dating in the meantime, then totally cut her off when you meet someone you really like, but it doesn't sound like you're the type to do that.

 

If that's the case just tell her you want to end the current arrangement. Thats if you can let go of the sex.

[Alamo657]

My life just gets curiouser and curiouser. I am rapidly approaching the 2nd anniversary of the separation of my bride and myself. I will not bore you with all the details I have posted previously on other threads and they are there for anyone who is interested. 5 months after I asked my wife to leave she showed up on my doorstep , she only lives a block away. She has been returning like clock work for NSA sex once or twice a month ever since. It's all a big secret on her part no one knows but me and she. I have no complaints because it's pretty much always an awesome romp but it does kind of get in the way with moving forward. She really shows little interest in reconciliation and when I invite her on date like activities she pretty much always declines. Has anyone else had this kind of situation develop your comments insights and observations and advice are always appreciated

 

You're in loser mode, addicted to a vagina you really enjoy, but can't really possess.

 

Time to go back to alpha mode, where pussy is plenty, and you don't specifically need a particular one.

[sandylee1]

I thought this sounded familiar and I went back and see I commented on one of your old threads. Your wife with all the childhood abuse issues and her family stuff.

 

Are you not divorced yet? You mention the anniversary of your seperation and I recall you had a waiting period to file.

 

Anyway .... you're not going to get the happy ever after you want with her, so you need to stop sleeping with her.

It's obviously mutual, but she's using you for sex right now. Not something I hear many men complain about.

[notmel]

I thought this sounded familiar and I went back and see I commented on one of your old threads. Your wife with all the childhood abuse issues and her family stuff.

 

Are you not divorced yet? You mention the anniversary of your seperation and I recall you had a waiting period to file.

 

Anyway .... you're not going to get the happy ever after you want with her, so you need to stop sleeping with her.

It's obviously mutual, but she's using you for sex right now. Not something I hear many men complain about.

 

Nope to the divorced question. I have put a 4 sale sign on my home and I will perhaps initiate proceedings after that. I am also planning to retire and move so it all makes sense at that time to deal with the legal side of things.