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I think my bfs dad is cheating on his mom

kelliemarie11

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kelliemarie11

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Call it woman’s intuition or whatever you want but, I really think this. I have been dating my bf for 3 years and about the same time my bfs dad has had a "friend" who is female about ten years younger than him that’s always been around. The story that I was told is that his dad was working at a construction site and right beside his work was the place that she was working. Somehow they started talking and got on the topic of his wife having a stroke from birth control and they became friends. It all seems way too suspicious coming from a divorced family whose dad was secretive like this too. My boyfriend’s mother had a stroke many years back maybe about 20 and she's not 100 percent. She is maybe 80 percent. A little slow on reaction but, not too slow. It seems suspicious to me that he met a woman who is younger and takes care of herself with a fully functioning brain who at the time he met her left her husband and moved out of their home. How did he trade numbers with this woman? Why did he trade numbers with her when he is married? She goes on trips with their family and I just don't trust her. When his mom visited her daughter in Michigan that woman was at their house with him ...visiting alone. I know this because he doesn't have fb and told his daughter that he saw the picture from "Laura”. Why was this woman at his house when his wife was not at home? He randomly will bring her up like at dinner the other day he randomly said “Laura would've came too but, she had to do something". There was one time he had poison ivy and I asked how he knew that he had it and he lifted down his button down collared shirt (he’s older) and showed me and told me that Laura saw it on his neck. This man NEVER wears anything but collared button downs. So how did she see that so low on his neck that he had to show me by pulling down his shirt? I don’t know man, things just seem way too suspicious for me. My bf naive as he is didn't think things at first until my bf brother’s gf Maggie said something out loud to us. She doesn't trust her either. I don't have a defined yes this is true and I don't think it's my business to get into but, if my boyfriend suspects this does he say something to his dad? And if there is something going on his mom would not know. I don't know if you told his mom this that she would fully comprehend what has happened. Her stroke took way from things that she would've easily understood before.

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JewelD

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Stay out of it. Your boyfriend should too unless he really wants to get on his dad about it but it doesn't seem like he cares.

 

You say your boyfriend's mother is 80% there. That seems like enough for her to put two and two together. I'm sure she's noticed this woman being mentioned a lot and going on vacations with them. She may know and simply just not care, they may have some type of arrangement where Dad gets a free pass. Or they might just really be friends.

 

Certainly not worth getting involved in though.

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I don't think his mom would know for real though. Yeah, I didn't think that it was my place to say anything.

 

Thanks for the input :)

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I suspect the wife is not as "slow" as she appears. I'm quite sure she has "woman's intuition" too.

 

This might be one of those situations where it pays to mind your own business. Could be that you're the one who is "slow".

 

You don't know what the wife is aware of or what she and her husband have agreed to.

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It really is none of your business.

 

IF you ever ask anyone about it - ask the Dad directly.

 

Stay out of it. And don't discuss it with others - that's gossip.

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I suspect the wife is not as "slow" as she appears. I'm quite sure she has "woman's intuition" too.

 

This might be one of those situations where it pays to mind your own business. Could be that you're the one who is "slow".

 

You don't know what the wife is aware of or what she and her husband have agreed to.

 

I think OP is confused as to what actually happens after a stroke.

 

The stroke victim's brain works perfectly fine, it's the body and speech that is affected by the clot to the brain. It's very frustrating for them to not be able to get words and thoughts out, it's also very frustrating for them to not be able to move as they want.

 

I also suggest you stay out of their business.

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It's quite possible the marriage is over but there is an arrangement that they stay together out of convenience. His mom and dad are not stupid, they know what it looks like and well, he is not exactly hiding it....it's pretty obvious with what's going on. I'm sure if your BF did ask about it, his father would tell him.

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It's quite possible the marriage is over but there is an arrangement that they stay together out of convenience. His mom and dad are not stupid, they know what it looks like and well, he is not exactly hiding it....it's pretty obvious with what's going on. I'm sure if your BF did ask about it, his father would tell him.

 

This is what I thought too. If she's always around even when the mom is, then he's obviously not hiding it. There is probably some arrangement and I don't think you should be involved.

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