New NC method ... called Stover

[Patrice]

So Totally Over ... great read for those who think they were involved with a narcissist:

 

https://relationshipedia.me/2015/06/23/how-to-permanently-detach-from-a-narcissist/

[HeCantBreakMe]

So Totally Over ... great read for those who think they were involved with a narcissist:

 

https://relationshipedia.me/2015/06/23/how-to-permanently-detach-from-a-narcissist/

 

Great read!

[Satu]

Thats a great article.

 

Here's my take on NC:

 

 

*No direct contact.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means he/she might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete him/herfrom all social media.

*No monitoring of him/her on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what he/she is doing or saying.

[Patrice]

being treated this way, and you will no longer enter my life.

[Raena]

That's great and all... unless you have children with an ex narcissist then going full no contact is not possible.

[Satu]

Of all the people in my life, there has only ever been one person, who I completely deleted from my inner and outer world. I had good reason to.

 

I made a promise to myself, that I would never again speak that person's name, or write it.

 

I never have.

 

It proved to be a very empowering decision.

 

I no longer even think that person's name.

 

How could I, when they don't have a name, anymore

 

 

Take care.

[Satu]

That's great and all... unless you have children with an ex narcissist then going full no contact is not possible.

 

In that case, no contact about anything unrelated to the children would be the best option possible.

 

Thats doable.

 

 

Take care.

[BlueIris]

That's great and all... unless you have children with an ex narcissist then going full no contact is not possible.

 

That's true and it's a terrible scenario. When your children have an abusive, mentally ill or active-addict parent, it's nearly impossible to interact with the parent productively and the children are being affected by the deep dysfunction of the other parent. All you can do is your best.

[Patrice]

the truth will come.

[cocorico]

So Totally Over ... great read for those who think they were involved with a narcissist:

 

https://relationshipedia.me/2015/06/23/how-to-permanently-detach-from-a-narcissist/

 

Pretty much sums up what my H did w.r.t. The XBW.

 

And yes, the bonfire was very therapeutic - he was euphoric for days, and has been much, much lighter ever since.

[cocorico]

That's true and it's a terrible scenario. When your children have an abusive, mentally ill or active-addict parent, it's nearly impossible to interact with the parent productively and the children are being affected by the deep dysfunction of the other parent. All you can do is your best.

 

Luckily the kids were older - teens - in our case, so capable of exercising a view. Sadly, I encouraged them to keep seeing her, keeping up the R so that they wouldn't regret it later. It was the wrong thing to do. I should have just left them to it, let them just drift away as they wanted.