Things are falling apart with my crush

[maq1996]

Ok, so I've had a crush on this girl for about 5-6 months now and I started talking to her as soon as I felt something for her. We've hung out a lot of times - alone. We live in a hostel (separate hostels) so we can walk around the university in the evening without being bothered. And sometimes we've made contact, physical contact; I once told her that I had warm hands so she reached out to grab and confirm lol. Even today when she accidentally stepped on a broken bottle - she's fine - she grabbed my arm for support. She's offered to keep all my keys - since I keep losing them. And I'm not the only one who initiates the conversation.

 

Now here comes the weird stuff. I planned to take her out on a date. I told her that we're gonna play a game and there are gonna be some stakes: if I win, I'm gonna take her out for coffee. And I won. So at first she agreed. I mean, she agreed until the night before the date. I texted her to be ready at 5 pm. 5 pm sharp. (I meant it to be playful). But then she said, "what if I get late ?" And right after that she says, "If you wanna bring someone else along, you can ask him."

 

I was shocked to say the least. I told her why would I want to bring my friend along? She said ok no problem, it's just us two then. I told her my plan was to take her out alone, if she felt uncomfortable, she could tell me about it. She said, no it's fine.

 

I called off the plan next day and when she asked why I told her that I'm a little busy with my friends. So, her reply was just "Okay ?".

 

I ended up not being busy lol and taking her friend to the hospital after she bruised herself - with my crush. During which I talked about some too deep ****. Like, really lame stuff - I was depressed.

 

Anyway, how should I proceed. I would appreciate a quick response.

[JewelD]

What deep stuff did you say? Regardless, it doesn't sound like she's interested in dating you or she would not have suggested you invite anyone else.

[maq1996]

My concern is, why on the night before? She had the whole week to say that.

[JewelD]

Hard to say. She may have been worried about hurting your feelings because you're friends. She may have been spending that time trying to figure out a way to get out of it. Or she was just putting it off until the last minute because it wasn't something she wanted to confront and deal with.