Alex77 Posted November 3, 2016 Share Posted November 3, 2016 Wife and I have been separated for about a year. When we separated she listed a whole bunch of reasons that just didn't make sense. Well after she moved out I found out she was having an affair. She took my 2 girls when she left and introduced them to her boyfriend the next day. Also told them they were creating a new family. Needless to say my kids now have some serious issues that are coming to the surface. We have not really spoken at all this past year. Within a matter of months she learned her affair partner was sleeping with other women...(sounds about fair) they stayed together in some means. My wife didn't file for 7 months after moving out in fact shortly after filing her affair partner died of a supposed drug overdose. Things with the divorce were atlease moving on according to the timed responses Filing, response, financial disclosures etc. Well Since all that got done my attorney has not heard a word from them in over 4 months. Wife refuses and seems to act scarred about talking about why things aren't moving forward. Since leaving she has enforced a visitation schedule with my girls that I do not agree with. Why would someone who wanted a divorce refuse to talk about it and secondly not be moving things along. I realize this would be speculation in regards to the why. But it is starting to drive me absolutely mad, I really don't have the money to legally force something to move forward that should just be moving along on it's own regardless. Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted November 3, 2016 Share Posted November 3, 2016 Alex77, I think your question is beyond the scope of the posters on this board. You should talk to your attorney about this. Sorry x 4 Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted November 3, 2016 Share Posted November 3, 2016 Only your attorney can tell you what's happening. All cases are unique. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted November 3, 2016 Share Posted November 3, 2016 She's keeping you as plan B since her affair partner didn't work out as planned. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alex77 Posted November 3, 2016 Author Share Posted November 3, 2016 We dont speak at all, when she left I wished her luck. For those first 6 months I would try to have a discussion as to why she hadnt filed. This also resulted in her not reaponding or avoiding answering the question and exploding at me for things not even relevent. I heard Im working on it, Im trying, It takes time to do this to which I responded my attorney could have it done in a week. Finally the last time I asked I heard youll have something in a week well that took three. Now I sit her stalled again in the process as they are not scheduling court dates or anything. Where she is the petitioner unless I want to spend additional money for my attorney to force a response Im stuck waiting. I dont know if anyone has been through something similar that could offer some insight. She wanted the divorce, she had the affair all ive done is just agree with her. She refuses or hides from any situation with me in which I might ask what is going on here? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 3, 2016 Share Posted November 3, 2016 Can you ask your attorney to contact her attorney to make it happen? Can you divorce her anyway? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alex77 Posted November 3, 2016 Author Share Posted November 3, 2016 My attorney has tried without success. She can file legal proceedings but is like this should hust move along you shouldnt have to pay 1500.00 in additional legal expense just to progress something that should move forward anyways. Its just baffling why my ex isnt moving this forward from a legal standpoint my attorney says if she was representing her she would be pushing this forward as quickly as possible. Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted November 3, 2016 Share Posted November 3, 2016 If things are not moving and you want to move them, spend the $$ ! Get a better attorney. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted November 3, 2016 Share Posted November 3, 2016 Do full nuclear exposure to all friends, family and her work on the affair. Maybe it'll pizz her off enough to get moving. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted November 3, 2016 Share Posted November 3, 2016 Do full nuclear exposure to all friends, family and her work on the affair. Maybe it'll pizz her off enough to get moving. OP, you haven't done all of this yet? Link to post Share on other sites
BlueIris Posted November 3, 2016 Share Posted November 3, 2016 Do full nuclear exposure to all friends, family and her work on the affair. Maybe it'll pizz her off enough to get moving. Very high risk of an explosive court battle and exorbitant attorneys fees. Another alternative would be to float a proposed judgment/decree and a letter explaining what you don't want to have to do and what a waste of money it would be to fight. It sounds as though she is probably spinning given the soap opera she has been living. If someone is flailing or feels backed into a corner, show them the way out. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Alex77 Posted November 3, 2016 Author Share Posted November 3, 2016 Everyone is well aware.. its odd in that almost a year after this went down i jave her own friends reaching out to me saying how disgusted they are with the way she handled things. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
S2B Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 Wife and I have been separated for about a year. When we separated she listed a whole bunch of reasons that just didn't make sense. Well after she moved out I found out she was having an affair. She took my 2 girls when she left and introduced them to her boyfriend the next day. Also told them they were creating a new family. Needless to say my kids now have some serious issues that are coming to the surface. We have not really spoken at all this past year. Within a matter of months she learned her affair partner was sleeping with other women...(sounds about fair) they stayed together in some means. My wife didn't file for 7 months after moving out in fact shortly after filing her affair partner died of a supposed drug overdose. Things with the divorce were atlease moving on according to the timed responses Filing, response, financial disclosures etc. Well Since all that got done my attorney has not heard a word from them in over 4 months. Wife refuses and seems to act scarred about talking about why things aren't moving forward. Since leaving she has enforced a visitation schedule with my girls that I do not agree with. Why would someone who wanted a divorce refuse to talk about it and secondly not be moving things along. I realize this would be speculation in regards to the why. But it is starting to drive me absolutely mad, I really don't have the money to legally force something to move forward that should just be moving along on it's own regardless. I'm sure you can file papers asking for a court appearance to get it finalized. Follow up with the help desk at the courthouse to see what your options are - then do what they suggest. Why would you leave it in the hands of a woman who does nothing to get it moving forward? You can't count on her - you need to do it yourself. Stop fooling yourself into thinking for a minute that she's gonna do anything! Her BF died of a drug overdose for gods sake - big indicator that she is also using drugs. Non drug users rarely hang out with non users. Get custody of your kids! They shouldn't be left with any drug user. You have work to do - best to get busy making things happen! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 I'm sure you can file papers asking for a court appearance to get it finalized. Follow up with the help desk at the courthouse to see what your options are - then do what they suggest. Why would you leave it in the hands of a woman who does nothing to get it moving forward? You can't count on her - you need to do it yourself. Stop fooling yourself into thinking for a minute that she's gonna do anything! Her BF died of a drug overdose for gods sake - big indicator that she is also using drugs. Non drug users rarely hang out with non users. Get custody of your kids! They shouldn't be left with any drug user. You have work to do - best to get busy making things happen! Yeah WTH????? People don't die from smoking a doobie at the end of the day when they get home from a hard day at work. For someone to die of an overdose, that means they were one serious drugged out hombre'. The chances of her not being involved in that lifestyle herself is nil. Why are your minor children in that environment? Why hasn't DHS been brought into this? Why hasn't their been protective orders removing the children from drug people? Why hasn't she been ordered to undergo drug testing and possible testing on the kids to see if they've had secondary exposures? You are pointing your fingers at her, but why have you been so passive and shown such a lack of initiative in protecting your children and asserting your parental rights and access? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
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