GTR King Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 Need advice with EXG.F Ok So I met someone at college (since 2008 ) (EX G.F) She had bipolar (Didn't know then) We were friends for a few weeks then got together for 1 year 3 months (Split up due to being ill) were friends for 2 years (Started seeing each other when she was getting better) then we got back together for 2 years split up again (Due to feeling ill) and she wanted me to be happy and was happy to stay friends... we stayed friends e.g text each other, birthdays Christmas when we need to say something etc or had Problems etc I was happy with that and dated other people... so known her for about 8 years.. Only today or yesterday she has deleted me off Facebook When I found out I messaged her this Me: You deleted me off Facebook?? If you don't wanna be friends anymore let me know. That's fine with me if that's your choice. Her Soz I just had a bad year. I will re add you as friend. I had clear out. Really sorry (Someone) ex was doing my nut in I don't mind txting you as friend only How can you be friends/talk to someone for 8 years then suddenly delete you off Facebook etc.. She was my first proper G.F and she told loads of times she happy to text as friends etc... if she don't wanna be friends she could of told me and I would of accepted that.. So what should I do? I have moved on and only like her as a friend no more and has dated since we split up over 2 years ago Link to post Share on other sites
aileD Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 Facebook isn't real life. If you're really friends with someone you don't ONLY talk to them on Facebook and you don't need Facebook to know what's going on in their lives. Were you really friends or just currently looking at her profile and feeling like you know her but not actually speaking to her ??? Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTR King Posted November 4, 2016 Author Share Posted November 4, 2016 (edited) We used to go out (We were bf/g.f split up then got back together) but split up (Due to her Bipolar) decided to stayed friends texts each other every now and then... thats what she wanted... Known each other for 8 years etc I was looking at another persons profile and saw she wasn't Mutual friends that's how I found out... If she tells me she don't wanna be friends I will accept that but if she don't tell me then I find that weird but she dose have Bipolar tho Edited November 4, 2016 by GTR King Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTR King Posted March 1, 2017 Author Share Posted March 1, 2017 (edited) Update she has deleted me again off Facebook (She still got Bipolar) only found out via looking at another friends profile and her notifications had gone about posting first time in awhile... I have known her for nearly 9 years (Friends/dating/relationship) and she decided to delete me off Facebook/cut me off out of her life (Added her when she first made the account and helped her set it up) and I don't think she wanna be friends with me anymore/unless she re adds me again when she is feeling better but do't want that to keep happening.... If I do ask her why she deleted me off Facebook she would reply same day/few weeks or more later (If she is ill) and will be very defensive about it, and will moan and say only as friends ok and act like she don't care/Give a sh*t about me anymore... (Same as last time, she was feeling iil/getting better) I feel bit annoyed about it as only wanna be friends with her nothing more, she agreed friends is better and I and her accepted that (When we split up 2013). for the last 4 years or we texted a few times as friends & if bumped into each other we would talk etc and would speak/text on birthdays new year xmas/when good things happen with us and I never want to get back together with her at all only wanna be friends... If it was someone I had known for a few months to a year or to It wouldn't matter/bother me at all but 9 years is different... I have deleted her phone number and will let her come to me if she wants to I would never ditch any one of my fiends/cut them out of my life with out a good reason But o well these things happen just gotta move on in life... can't dwell on the past Edited March 1, 2017 by GTR King Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted March 3, 2017 Share Posted March 3, 2017 Need advice with EXG.F Ok So I met someone at college (since 2008 ) (EX G.F) She had bipolar (Didn't know then) We were friends for a few weeks then got together for 1 year 3 months (Split up due to being ill) were friends for 2 years (Started seeing each other when she was getting better) then we got back together for 2 years split up again (Due to feeling ill) and she wanted me to be happy and was happy to stay friends... we stayed friends e.g text each other, birthdays Christmas when we need to say something etc or had Problems etc I was happy with that and dated other people... so known her for about 8 years.. Only today or yesterday she has deleted me off Facebook When I found out I messaged her this Me: You deleted me off Facebook?? If you don't wanna be friends anymore let me know. That's fine with me if that's your choice. Her Soz I just had a bad year. I will re add you as friend. I had clear out. Really sorry (Someone) ex was doing my nut in I don't mind txting you as friend only �� How can you be friends/talk to someone for 8 years then suddenly delete you off Facebook etc.. She was my first proper G.F and she told loads of times she happy to text as friends etc... if she don't wanna be friends she could of told me and I would of accepted that.. So what should I do? I have moved on and only like her as a friend no more and has dated since we split up over 2 years ago This is very conflicting information here. Also, to use facebook as a foundation of friendship status in reality seems slightly unhealthy.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTR King Posted March 3, 2017 Author Share Posted March 3, 2017 (edited) I didn't mean friends via Facebook... We were friends via Facebook/texting etc But she deleted off Facebook since being friends on there since 2008 (Last Nov) when I asked her why she deleted me (Politely) she got really defensive (Bit funny/moody I think) just said sorry I am having a bad year been really ill last few months (bi polar kicked in) so just as friends only (That's all I was asking nothing more) we spoke a bit at Christmas/new year as friends (She was fine then) she was my first proper Girlfriend.... when we split up 2nd time in 2013, she told me she wanted to be single for the time being because of her mental health problems (Bi Polar), and told me if she didn't have bi polar she would of stayed with me as she still loves me (Not now tho) and that I am sure you will find someone lovely in the future I am happy to stay friends and still talk to you as your a lovely person but need to go NC for a bit (both of us Found it hard as someone kept interfering with us once that stopped it was better) we then went NC For a few months then just acted as friends nothing more... She deleted me again, (About a week or so ago) so I deleted her number and will not re add her on facebook unless she adds me/will add her number only if she texts me... I think i did the right thing but bit annoyed that after knowing someone for nearly 9 years they decided they don't wanna know you any more Edited March 3, 2017 by GTR King Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted March 4, 2017 Share Posted March 4, 2017 I didn't mean friends via Facebook... We were friends via Facebook/texting etc But she deleted off Facebook since being friends on there since 2008 (Last Nov) when I asked her why she deleted me (Politely) she got really defensive (Bit funny/moody I think) just said sorry I am having a bad year been really ill last few months (bi polar kicked in) so just as friends only (That's all I was asking nothing more) we spoke a bit at Christmas/new year as friends (She was fine then) she was my first proper Girlfriend.... when we split up 2nd time in 2013, she told me she wanted to be single for the time being because of her mental health problems (Bi Polar), and told me if she didn't have bi polar she would of stayed with me as she still loves me (Not now tho) and that I am sure you will find someone lovely in the future I am happy to stay friends and still talk to you as your a lovely person but need to go NC for a bit (both of us Found it hard as someone kept interfering with us once that stopped it was better) we then went NC For a few months then just acted as friends nothing more... She deleted me again, (About a week or so ago) so I deleted her number and will not re add her on facebook unless she adds me/will add her number only if she texts me... I think i did the right thing but bit annoyed that after knowing someone for nearly 9 years they decided they don't wanna know you any more If she is bi-polar she will have episodes and will shift from one emotion to another in cycles. This is a disorder and there is no reason to invest in someone who will love you than love you not. Its a losing battle. She may be your first girlfriend..but that doesn't mean you have to hold high regards for her... if she doesn't want to be with you... its more than likely she has a new guy Link to post Share on other sites
Author GTR King Posted March 4, 2017 Author Share Posted March 4, 2017 (edited) I know she doesn't want to be with me I fully respect that, only want to be friends What I don't get is that she don't want to be friends with me anymore after knowing her for nearly 9 years & telling me she is happy to be friends afte we split up.. Unless it's her Bipolar making her do this and she willl re add me/want me to be friends again when she is feeling allot better... I don't want someone to keep saying I don't want to be friends with you anymore/delete you off Facebook then when they are better (Few weeks/months etc) will re add you/want to be friends again Edited March 4, 2017 by GTR King Link to post Share on other sites
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