Iamlostin Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 Interested in your opinions about dating the alpha male mentality? Or anyones experiences with that. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 Break em! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Buddhist Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 I avoid anyone who subscribes to this ideology because I don't think it's an intelligent one. Those are the sum total of my thoughts on it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 4, 2016 Share Posted November 4, 2016 I'm following Buddhist's opinion. I don't buy into the whole Alpha/Beta male thing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
spideywoman Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 Yep. I have no advice for you since I have no experience in dealing with them in a relationship situation _ the first whiff I get, I run the other way. As one poster said, it's not a good mentality. That said _ I come from a culture of alpha males. Thumping chests, misogyny, the whole nine. They're incorrigible. The only improvement you can expect is that maybe he'll change a diaper or two and was the dishes once a year (and by that I mean press the 'start' button on the dishwasher after you've loaded it.) Other than that, you either subscribe to it and play the role he has set in his mind for you, or you don't. Good luck, you'll need it! Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 I avoid anyone who subscribes to this ideology because I don't think it's an intelligent one. Those are the sum total of my thoughts on it. Really? Before you make that assumption please provide reasons behind it? I promise you if I start pumping estrogen into your SO your attraction for him will dip.. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 I'm pretty sure Buddhist and Basil are saying there's objectively no such thing as an "aplha male." Which I actually agree with and it plays into what I said - IMO so-called alpha males are actually just guys who think that's what they are, wrongly, bc they've got a misguided view of what it means to be a man and how to treat women etc. Those are the guys I tended to break back when I was in that game, not actual 'real men' so to speak. A real man isn't an alpha male. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iamlostin Posted November 5, 2016 Author Share Posted November 5, 2016 Most of my background involves psychology, and the best way I could label it so there was a general sense was an alpha male. I may not be sticking to the proper term here. But I am trying to basically say a man who feels the need to one up everyone (which any guy can do), or even have some of those "I am the dominant one" mentality. To the one person about asking about my reasonings or proof, you'd be reading a textbook, I'll tell you that much. I feel it's a bit of a culture thing but not entirely because one can choose to deviate from whatever kind of "norm" there is with a male. I am not a psychologist nor am I a doctor, however I believe in the idea of an alpha male or the idea that one feels they are. Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 I'm pretty sure Buddhist and Basil are saying there's objectively no such thing as an "aplha male." Which I actually agree with and it plays into what I said - IMO so-called alpha males are actually just guys who think that's what they are, wrongly, bc they've got a misguided view of what it means to be a man and how to treat women etc. Those are the guys I tended to break back when I was in that game, not actual 'real men' so to speak. A real man isn't an alpha male. I always thought of the terms alpha/beta males as a 'front'. Alphas..LOl...Alphas until they get cheated on,then turn beta! I'm just me.. I am sensitive at times but, will crack a head in a bar fight if needed.. I don't get walked over normally but, have been cheated on and broken down by women in my past.. I just do my thing.. Like it or not the "alpha/beta" is a a thing of PUA(lame!) in todays dating world.. Just be yourself and live happy! Link to post Share on other sites
Alamo657 Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 The alpha male doesn't think he is above others, but other people recognize him as superior. Do not mix up alpha males and obnoxious misogynism, those are 2 different things. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 (edited) I'm pretty sure Buddhist and Basil are saying there's objectively no such thing as an "aplha male." Which I actually agree with and it plays into what I said - IMO so-called alpha males are actually just guys who think that's what they are, wrongly, bc they've got a misguided view of what it means to be a man and how to treat women etc. Those are the guys I tended to break back when I was in that game, not actual 'real men' so to speak. A real man isn't an alpha male. I beg to differ. The Alpha male (female) term has been distorted. It's been define now as the males refusal to show compassion to a women or tell her that he loves her or to be the aggressor by having multiple women and etc. If you were married and your husband climbs the ladder at work is that not sexy or attractive. If he is passionate about his hobbies or good friends or family around him. Doesn't that make you attracted to him? It's Friday night and he says.. we're going out 9pm dress to the 9s were going out.. doesn't that make you feel like a women. If he is able to engage with other ppl.. strangers. and make them laugh or look up to him.. isn't that engaging? These are Alpha attributes if your male or FEMALE. Edited November 5, 2016 by Sweetfish Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 5, 2016 Share Posted November 5, 2016 Most of my background involves psychology, and the best way I could label it so there was a general sense was an alpha male. I may not be sticking to the proper term here. But I am trying to basically say a man who feels the need to one up everyone (which any guy can do), or even have some of those "I am the dominant one" mentality. OK, now we have a personality description so I can answer your question: I would not consider dating a man like this for a moment. I probably wouldn't even socialise with him. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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