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Do you think it would be creepy for an 18 year old to date a 16-17 year old? Would it be like a 20 year old or older finding them attractive? Is it a form of ephebophilia?

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Do you think it would be creepy for an 18 year old to date a 16-17 year old? Would it be like a 20 year old or older finding them attractive? Is it a form of ephebophilia?

 

 

Knowing the bolded word is a red flag to me.

 

 

In high school some dating between grades happens. Though most teens find it wrong to dip more than a grade down. And, when men graduate unless they were in a relationship and dating a girl a year younger before they graduated, will feel it is wrong to try and start new relationships with girls that are still in school.

 

 

Though the may still find 16 yo attractive they ignore that because they find it socially unacceptable for they are now in the adult world.

 

 

They need a date post high school well there will be a lot of girls on the college campus and for those not college bound there will be people to meet through work.

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Do you think it would be creepy for an 18 year old to date a 16-17 year old? Would it be like a 20 year old or older finding them attractive? Is it a form of ephebophilia?

 

No that's a normal dating range.

 

That being said, I empathize with men at this age because you're right on all cusp of the 'too old' to date someone that is otherwise considered age appropriate.

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Not really.

 

Think of it this way:

 

A 16 year old and a 14 year old together would be deemed acceptable by most people, although most people are likely to not deem any further than that very acceptable. If they stay together for 2 years, it would still be appropriate, right?

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Do you think it would be creepy for an 18 year old to date a 16-17 year old? Would it be like a 20 year old or older finding them attractive? Is it a form of ephebophilia?

 

It's perfectly fine.

 

Can an 18 year old even have ephebophila? It's like saying that a baby is incontinent for crapping in a diaper. It's developmentally normal for teenagers to be attracted to other teenagers, just like it's developmentally normal for babies to use diapers.

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I can count on the fingers of Mickely Mouse's hand how many 18-year-olds I know who know the term "ephebophilia"....

 

Of course it's fine to date.

Of course it's not fine to get 'pgysical'.

 

Right?

 

I mean, there ARE laws.....

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My first boyfriend was 17 and in high school still when I was 18 and in college. I even went to his senior prom. lol No one barked at that then, but the college boys did wonder what the heck was wrong with me.

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Silver-Chariot

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A few days in the last week of summer, at the library I met this girl. We hit it off immediately and started to hang out a lot during these last few days and we've gotten pretty close since then. We have amazing chemistry and I know she cares a lot about me. The thing is, I am 18 and starting uni and she's 17 and a hs senior? I know its one year age difference, but is it creepy for me to start a relationship as I've had thoughts about it, but I'm not too sure. For example, a 20 year old and 17 year old are 3 years apart, but it's strange for a 20 year old to go after a highschooler. I am disturbed by the idea of much older guys going after girls in Highschool and I don't want to be in the same category as those people, but I feel really strongly for this girl. She's not too far from campus, like a 10 min walk but still, should I try and start a relationship?

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Don't get involved in a relationship with a high school girl when you're starting college.

 

The age doesn't matter, it's just a year. But there will be no shortage of women at college. The last thing you'll want to do is go hang out with your high school girlfriend when you could be partying with hot college girls.

 

Trust me on this one, give yourself some time to be single and enjoy college.

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Don't get involved in a relationship with a high school girl when you're starting college.

 

The age doesn't matter, it's just a year. But there will be no shortage of women at college. The last thing you'll want to do is go hang out with your high school girlfriend when you could be partying with hot college girls.

 

Trust me on this one, give yourself some time to be single and enjoy college.

 

Okayyyyyyyyy, aside from that, what about the whole 'creepy stuff' due to me being i uni and her being in hs I mentioned....

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Lots of girls in high school have boyfriends who attend university. If you want to date her, you could definitely date her. There would be nothing "creepy" about that - it's just a one year age difference.

 

It's sex that gets more complicated because technically, she still a minor. The law may be different depending on where you live - you should learn if the age of consent is 16 or 18. Not to say that it probably doesn't happen among couples that are dating in similar circumstances... Still, you want to be sure.

 

Correct me if I'm wrong...

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Silver-Chariot

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I see you, but for example, a 17 year old and a 20 year old have a 3 year age difference and it does seem kind of odd for a 20 year old to date a 17 year old hs student and I was wondering if my situation could be the same.

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Not in my mind.

 

Three years is a bigger age difference... I don't know a parent who would really be excited for a boy in their 20's who is well into his university degree, perhaps starting a job (ie. At a different stage of life) dating their 17 year old daughter. Although, I had friends who did just that and they were married a few years later.

 

You are 18 years old. It's just a year. You are at a different stage of life than her - she is enjoying her last year of high school while you are starting your university career... Different friends, schedules, pressures, etc... That's what the first poster was suggesting to you. But, if you are ok with that - one year is not a big deal, IMHO. It happens, all the time! My cousins were the same age when they started dating. He was in university, she was in high school. It happens.

 

It has everything to do with your stage of life and the laws related to consent if it is a sexual relationship.

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If you are going to local college to where she is dating g is possible.

 

It's not at all weird for you to date someone a yr younger.

 

You need to know what your state laws on sex. Some states it's criminal while others give a 2-3 yr age difference if one is in high school and the other out.

 

If you are going away to college then this likely isn't worth it. Similarly f8ne out where she thinks she will go to college. Even if you are close now, she may go a few states away.

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For the most part a two year difference is not "creepy"

 

Maturity, stage of life (highschool vs college) etc come into play.

 

When I was 16 my BF was 18. We were both in high school etc, seemed pretty darn normal!

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I've always thought it was 'normal' for the man to be a couple of years older. Maybe that's just because most of my family/friends have a few years age difference.

 

As a 19 year old girl I wasn't interested in many 19 year old boys. There's a maturity gap at that age.

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DarrenB

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Any R/S within the teenage years, and if there's a considerable age difference (say 2-4 years) then it can be portrayed and percieved as 'odd' and 'weird' to other people. Personally, the age difference of which you stated I think is fine.

 

I think as the genuine legal age for a majority of things is 18, and if the other person is older, then people will always assume the worst. I've had that myself. Some will accept it, some will disapprove entirely.

 

Do you care to go into more detail? so I can give you a more in-depth explanation? if you would like that of course. I can give you an insight from my own personal, intimate relationships.

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