Sweetfish Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 Thank you so much your post has helped me out a lot I don't think I'm going to quite give up yet I'm going to absolutely try everything because I love him. And then if it don't work I let him go so he can be happy its soo ironic here.. In one thread a man struggles to have sex with his wife and be intimate. Here the OP struggles to have sex and be intimate with her husband. Love is truly a lottery Link to post Share on other sites
Mrin Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 Just tossing out ideas here but what sort of contraception do you use? Could he be avoiding sex because he doesn't want a child? Link to post Share on other sites
gaveup Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 Sit him down and make him talk. What just popped out in my mind is that maybe he has an affair. Maybe that's stupid, but who knows. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 im so comfused like really i need to know what is wrong with me like what have i done wrong. . There is no confusion here. What you have done/are doing wrong is you are allowing yourself to be used by a man who doesn't care about you, is more into porn and only wants you around to drain his tank periodically when he feels like it. You are not confused by any of this as you know exactly what the score is. You are just resisting taking the proper steps to extricate yourself from the situation for the moment. Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 Nothing has changed and if he can jack off when looking at other woman then why cant he have sex with me. I just feel like he should have said something befor we got married. Really its not all about the sex he dont even kiss me anymore i try to snuggle and he pulls away.. there has to be something wrong i just dont know how to fix it. All i know is i want the man back that loved me with every bone in his body. Not i dont even hear those words... Sex was better before you got married. Did he ever have problems sexually prior to getting married? Likely not, right? Well, there are some issues/questions here that may be helpful. Just my thoughts... 1. You drive him around? As in, he can't drive for one reason or another. So, you serve as his personal chauffer? So, he's DEPENDENT on transportation provided by you. What was the courting like? I ask b/c, unfortunately, his libido and interest may have been a 'display' to get you where you are now...married. 2. How long did you date before getting married? 3. I don't think you ever did anything wrong, rather, his lack of interest could be, sorry, that he was never truly that attracted to you. See #1 for my reason(s). 4. He could be having an affair. Possible? 5. Was there any lull in sex between the time he proposed and you two got married? 6. How was your wedding night? 7. How quickly did his interest dry up? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Camogirl21 Posted November 13, 2016 Author Share Posted November 13, 2016 We dated 3 years before we got married you treated me so good he was appreciative of everything I've done and I can't get pregnant and he knows that. How to completely turn into a different person after we got married. He was in and out of the motel room all night. We eat pizza and swam for a few hours and he told me how lucky he was and how much he cared. But i do remember waking up alot abd him not me there. I would find him out side smoking talking to travlers. Link to post Share on other sites
gaveup Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 Ok, so how your wedding was? How did you meet? Does he know your friends and family well? Do they like him? Sorry for asking it, but what is your both financial situation? Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetfish Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 We dated 3 years before we got married you treated me so good he was appreciative of everything I've done and I can't get pregnant and he knows that. How to completely turn into a different person after we got married. He was in and out of the motel room all night. We eat pizza and swam for a few hours and he told me how lucky he was and how much he cared. But i do remember waking up alot abd him not me there. I would find him out side smoking talking to travlers. I wouldn't just sit around and hope this gets better.. eventually he might hit up prostitutes or cheat. While your ok with it now.. I see him not stopping unless you make drastic moves. His porn hobby is going to interfere with your sex life (it already has) and your going to feel less and less of a woman if your ok with this. You should seek help on your own and get help from a professional without him. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 I wouldn't just sit around and hope this gets better.. eventually he might hit up prostitutes or cheat. While your ok with it now.. I see him not stopping unless you make drastic moves. His porn hobby is going to interfere with your sex life (it already has) and your going to feel less and less of a woman if your ok with this. You should seek help on your own and get help from a professional without him. Yeah, mine ended up hitting up a prostitute. Link to post Share on other sites
Pete2304 Posted November 17, 2016 Share Posted November 17, 2016 Yeah, mine ended up hitting up a prostitute. The hell is wrong with people? This site needs a dating section because I think there are plenty enough like minded and decent people on here that even if a million and one bad dates end up happening, there'd be some good ones as well Link to post Share on other sites
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