Simone84 Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 We are from the same city originally, met there, had a relationship but then he moved away and we were long distance as we wanted to try and make it work. It didn't work and we broke up, it wasn't a nice ending. Since then I moved to another country and he has recently contacted me online. The next thing I knew we were making plans to get back together and for him to move here. It seems it's all happening. But now I am wondering if I'm being dumb and going into this blindly, or if it was simply bad timing then and perfect timing now. We are both single. He doesn't have a lot going on back home... A friend recently asked me how do I know that he's not just getting back with me because he wants to move here and being with me means he will have someone at least. Does anyone have any advice? Does this sound completely irrational and stupid beyond words, or could it be that some people just meet at the wrong time and get a second chance years later when the circumstances are different and their lives are different? Link to post Share on other sites
bummer Posted November 16, 2016 Share Posted November 16, 2016 Without knowing more of the original dynamics it is hard to advise anything. Why was the ending so bad? Was it mutual or one-sided? How long did it last? Do you still care for him? Have you had many conversations now that you are reconnecting? Why not take it slow with a weekend visit to start? Are you in different mental places now? How are both of you financially now? I love the fairy tale of second chances mostly because I feel people rarely make drastic life changes and are generally the same person you knew before. If the previous relationship was GOOD and ended largely due to the long-distance, than I feel there is always a chance of reconnecting. A long-shot, but not crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
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