Stand ground or be paranoid?

[VeveCakes]

I'm very sorry.

 

That is terrible what she did to you.

 

She is playing games, not caring at all about you.

 

I think you should turn around and come home.

[johnnyempec]

Okay...she texted me to come to her place to talk. We spoke about 3 hours, and she only had a few hours sleep left before going off to work.

 

She told me:

 

1) she was tired about me controlling her emotions

2) I was fake

3) I was emotionally unavailable and

4) she doesnt know if things will work out

5) she will help me with whatever is needed for my stay here

6) she was comparing me to the other guy who she emotionally dated for 4 weeks. To see what I didnt give her.

 

I told her I wanted to fight for it and will show her from this day forward, and again she told me that she wasnt sure if things would work.

 

Later she started to cry a little telling me she lost the connection between us. I told yes 'yes I know.' I was very honest this night and explained her how I felt.

 

She also told me she didn' t want to live together yet. She will tell me when she's ready.

 

Later the night she took a shower and we had sex. I could feel things were way off for sure, but she enjoyed it she said.

 

My goal now is to reconnect with my wife and to take care of my emotions, to be emotional available. I was too afraid of telling her my true emotions. And to stop manipulating her.

 

 

Hope things will work out. How am I standing here?

Edited November 18, 2016 by johnnyempec

[MidwestUSA]

The better question is why are you there? File for divorce and go home. Fix your own issues, and hopefully meet someone else down the line.

 

Too much water under the bridge to fix this one.

[johnnyempec]

The better question is why are you there? File for divorce and go home. Fix your own issues, and hopefully meet someone else down the line.

 

Too much water under the bridge to fix this one.

 

Hmmm...how sure are you, and the rest here about this? No reason to fight for it?

[MuddyFootprints]

Did you say "I do?"

 

Who officiated?

 

Are you actually married?

[johnnyempec]

Did you say "I do?"

 

Who officiated?

 

Are you actually married?

 

I'm not sure what you are asking...

[MuddyFootprints]

I'm questioning the authenticity of your marriage.

[MidwestUSA]

Hmmm...how sure are you, and the rest here about this? No reason to fight for it?

 

Don't you see that reason she wanted to know when your flight left, and kept asking for updates, was to give her time to temporarily ditch her other guy?

 

Then, when you got there, she still hadn't done it! Which is why she couldn't pick you up. She was still with him.

 

But, if you want to reform her, go for it. As far as being messed up, at least you're on an even playing field with her.

[johnnyempec]

Don't you see that reason she wanted to know when your flight left, and kept asking for updates, was to give her time to temporarily ditch her other guy?

 

Then, when you got there, she still hadn't done it! Which is why she couldn't pick you up. She was still with him.

 

But, if you want to reform her, go for it. As far as being messed up, at least you're on an even playing field with her.

 

Hmmm, she had a screenshot of the ticket. So that doesn't make much sense. Also she was at work around the time of my arrival. She just didn't want to take a leave for me, cuz her boyfriend is at work probably. Hmmmm.

 

Well, I do see now anyway that stuff is beyond repair probably. I'm not flying back home cuz it's still a lot of fun here. ;p

Edited November 19, 2016 by johnnyempec