amerikajin Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 You've got a choice. Intelligence, assets and other things equal, you have a choice: A) Macho guy: Not always sensitive. Not the type to throw out a comment about how good you look, but does so sparingly. Not the most elegant guy, but definitely a take-no-s*** rugged man. Sports a beard, or a mustache, or maybe a five o'clock shadow. Muscles? He's got 'em. Doesn't always smile, but he does smile enough to let you know he's got a personality and a soul. B) Metro guy (or perhaps, suave guy in some circles): fairly tall, slender, with a pretty face - sorta like one of those young preppy Ralph Lauren dudes. Dresses and grooms himself well. He's not the most muscled guy out there, but he has something to show for his occasional exercise habits. Take your pick. Link to post Share on other sites
mini_me123 Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 i say metro guy. a guy who is sensitive and caring. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 I would choose A.. Link to post Share on other sites
seagirl Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 A metro guy and I would not get along! I have a macho guy with a sensitive side that hides most of the time. Link to post Share on other sites
Naive Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 C - in between Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by ~Naive~ C - in between Link to post Share on other sites
SummerRae Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 A ALLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL THE WAY TO TEXAS. (Or not.) Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Macho. I am very feminine. My dad told me once: "You have a very strong personality so you need someone even stronger than you!" I think that was interesting and turned out to be true. I am attracted to a macho guy right now (my BF). I need the protector type. Link to post Share on other sites
SummerRae Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Totally. As much as I'm the independent type...... I want a guy to drag me by the hair to the bedroom........ Link to post Share on other sites
Jennifer'sSecret Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 I'm with Merin - "A" I like the macho guy. A compliment can come in the form of a smack on the a$$ with a loud proclamation of "NICE!" - has the same effect as "You look lovely tonight," which would be expected from the wimpy metro. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by Jennifer'sSecret I'm with Merin - "A" A compliment can come in the form of a smack on the a$$ with a loud proclamation of "NICE!" -. Whoo! I need to stop! Link to post Share on other sites
Jennifer'sSecret Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by SummerRae Totally. As much as I'm the independent type...... I want a guy to drag me by the hair to the bedroom........ Naw, over the shoulder... Merin, ya with me? Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by Jennifer'sSecret Naw, over the shoulder... Merin, ya with me? I'm with ya sista! Link to post Share on other sites
Author amerikajin Posted July 13, 2005 Author Share Posted July 13, 2005 Well, by my count, it's 6 for macho, 1 for metro, and 1 no-vote (sorry, you can only choose one OR the other). This is my own research project, which is confirming what I already knew. Time for me to hit the Joe Weider and the local gym again. I'm practicing kendo, but that's actually making me lose weight 'cause we sweat so frickin much underneath the gear. More replies definitely appreciated. Link to post Share on other sites
miss-gonewest Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Well, years ago I dated Mr B and we worked really well - I loved that he smelt good, dressed good, mixed great cocktails and took me to the newest and best restaurants. He was perhaps my most suitable partner looking back in hindsight, and the one that lasted the longest. After we broke up, I went on to date Mr A1, Mr A2 and MrA3... do you see the pattern here? They were masculine, they were rowdy, they were dead sexy in that blokey way, they drank beer and couldn't cook, but we did have buckets of fun. That said, ummm none of them worked out! Hence, I am actually looking for MrC in the Middle, (even though its against your rules). I am however prepared to try out my theory and date a MrA and see how that goes. Because what I like, ain't necesarily good for me! LOL. Link to post Share on other sites
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 I want a macho-metrosexual. Where do I find one of those? Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Amerikajin, I liked your post where you explained femininity vs. masculinity. How we basically understood your poll was whether we like rather masculine or rather not so masculine men. Muscles and sensitiveness have nothing to do with that. I know a guy who was not a real man yet was very insensitive and had nice muscles. He couldn't hide his personality from me. I need a man. But you are who you are and women should love you for who you are. If you want to be the man who women can't resist, work on your charm, body posture, self-confidence, and good manners. Men who don't smile totally turn me off. Same with bad manners and insecurity. Most women will lose their heads for you if you treat them like princesses, but not in the servile way; more like you've seen in the old movies. Another thing I want in a man is to be sexual and passionate about me. I want him to look at me when I am changing my clothes and touch me all over whenever he has the chance. Whether you put perfume or jelly on your hair I don't care. Muscles are sexy and clean body is a must. I believe other women don't differ much from me. Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 The Metro guy and I would bore eachother sick. If clothes looks good to me and on me (in my view anyway) then as far as I'm concerned they're cutting edge, and I really don't care what any leading authority designers have to say on the matter. I couldn't stand to be with some fashion victim of a guy who came out with crap like "Daaahling - every woman must have at least ONE pair of Jimmy Choos!!!" Then again, the traditional hair-grabbing caveman wouldn't be my ideal partner either. I think what I'd like is someone who knows how to look good without requiring the advice - or succumbing to the brainwashing - of self-proclaimed style gurus. Someone who is honest, independent-minded and direct. Who doesn't assume that those qualities are exclusively masculine ones...and, indeed, could only be truly happy with a woman who also possesses them. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by ~Naive~ C - in between I'm not a woman...but I did stay at a holiday inn express last nite .... I would say most women want same as ~NAIVE~, but if they had to choose one of the two it would be A. Link to post Share on other sites
ThumbingMyWay Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Alpha.... this is just re-affirming the fact that women love b"A"d boys..... Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale but if they had to choose one of the two it would be A. And they would continue to say that they are looking for C Link to post Share on other sites
EnigmaXOXO Posted July 13, 2005 Share Posted July 13, 2005 I'm attracted to a guy who's comfortable in his own skin whether he's ruggedly handsome or suave and refined. "Macho" (to me) is defined more by attitude than appearance. Never could stomach those knuckle-dragging, chest-pounding alpha males who are more brawn than brains. Their cocky, aggressive, dominant attitudes are just as unappealing as those wife-beater shirts they wear. Wouldn't want to spend my days opening beer cans for that grunting Neanderthal who's fourth from the left on the evolutionary chart. Five 0' clock shadows are okay (for the weekends). But if shaving his face, knuckles and back leaves more hair in the sink then a Wookie…I'm out! "Metro"…or "pretty boys" are okay by me so long as they're not too girly. Like any woman, I want someone whose arms I can feel safe in. As weird as it might sound, a lot of women just want to feel 'protected' by their partners rather than dominated. And (to me) there's nothing sexier than a guy who is comfortable enough with who he is on the 'inside' to allow himself to be open, expressive and even (God forbid) vulnerable for his partner. Link to post Share on other sites
Author amerikajin Posted July 13, 2005 Author Share Posted July 13, 2005 I know that there are shades of gray here. The point is that a woman is sexually compelled to masculinity first. Even though a metrosexual can have a nice face, flashes a charming smile and says all the right things, a woman is first going to be drawn to the barrel chested, silent dude, playing pool sporting the Clint Black look with his black cowboy hat, boots and blue jeans...as opposed to the Ralph Lauren poster boy. A man is who he is, just as Record Producer said. But women would prefer that a man be masculine enough to protect her, which equates to the ability to occasionally, dare I say, dominate her. I don't mean that a woman wants to be dominated and have her feet bound like some concubine, but I think that a woman needs a man to be the stronger of the two. And a woman's instinct tells her that the amount of ruggedness or masculinity evident in the guy equates to protection - at least initially. Of course, what comes out of his mouth has everything to do with his success or failure thereafter - we all know that. But I mean, even if you're a smooth talker, smart, charming and everything else a woman desires, it all starts with attraction. And if you're not masculine enough, she's always going to be thinking "Thanks for the offer, let me think about it," while she waits for the more masculine guy with those same qualities. The bottom line is, a man has to meet her basic minimum requirements for masculinity. If he doesn't, he's out. It explains why the guy who's perhaps a tad overweight beats out the guy runs five kilometers everyday and keeps his figure; it explains why some 43 year old manager beats out a 24 year old staffer (well, money doesn't hurt, but that's also part of the greater masculinity/provider equation). Speaking of that, it's an interesting phenomenon, because as I've gotten older, I've actually gotten better with women (which seems illogical in my mind). But I know why: when I was 24, I was actually in my physical prime - worked out everyday and had no wrinkles on my face. But there's something else I didn't have - confidence. Now, I don't take nearly as much s*** as I used to, and I have a better understanding of who I am, and I find it much easier to deal with women. But I still sometimes lose out on women I'd love to be with, and it's probably because some women, while they will think I'm cute and cuddly (their words, not my vanity speaking), will probably pass me by for a rough neck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author amerikajin Posted July 13, 2005 Author Share Posted July 13, 2005 I know that there are shades of gray here. The point is that a woman is sexually compelled to masculinity first. Even though a metrosexual can have a nice face, flashes a charming smile and says all the right things, a woman is first going to be drawn to the barrel chested, silent dude, playing pool sporting the Clint Black look with his black cowboy hat, boots and blue jeans...as opposed to the Ralph Lauren poster boy. A man is who he is, just as Record Producer said. But women would prefer that a man be masculine enough to protect her, which equates to the ability to occasionally, dare I say, dominate her. I don't mean that a woman wants to be dominated and have her feet bound like some concubine, but I think that a woman needs a man to be the stronger of the two. And a woman's instinct tells her that the amount of ruggedness or masculinity evident in the guy equates to protection - at least initially. Of course, what comes out of his mouth has everything to do with his success or failure thereafter - we all know that. But I mean, even if you're a smooth talker, smart, charming and everything else a woman desires, it all starts with attraction. And if you're not masculine enough, she's always going to be thinking "Thanks for the offer, let me think about it," while she waits for the more masculine guy with those same qualities. The bottom line is, a man has to meet her basic minimum requirements for masculinity. If he doesn't, he's out. It explains why the guy who's perhaps a tad overweight beats out the guy runs five kilometers everyday and keeps his figure; it explains why some 43 year old manager beats out a 24 year old staffer (well, money doesn't hurt, but that's also part of the greater masculinity/provider equation). Speaking of that, it's an interesting phenomenon, because as I've gotten older, I've actually gotten better with women (which seems illogical in my mind). But I know why: when I was 24, I was actually in my physical prime - worked out everyday and had no wrinkles on my face. But there's something else I didn't have - confidence. Now, I don't take nearly as much s*** as I used to, and I have a better understanding of who I am, and I find it much easier to deal with women. But I still sometimes lose out on women I'd love to be with, and it's probably because some women, while they will think I'm cute and cuddly (their words, not my vanity speaking), will probably pass me by for a rough neck. Link to post Share on other sites
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