Does he want me back?

[Sean2510]

My ex partner and I broke up a few months ago. It was hard to pin point a reason, we got along so well but at the end he seemed distracted and the spark sort of fizzled out.

When we broke up he said he couldn't imagine life without me and wanted to make sure I'd always be part of his life but I couldn't right away. We spent about a month without any contact until he approached me and we caught up.

Since then we've been hanging out basically like a couple with the intimate side. He's my best friends and I over spending time with him but I'm also still in love with him and won't move on if we're always together.

There are time when I don't hear from him for days but mostly I hear from him several times a day. He is making future plans with me and wants to be involved in every aspect of my life. It feels like we are dating again. I'm not sure how to approach the next step. I don't want this to end, but if he doesn't want to rekindle anything I'm afraid that may have to be what happens. How should I go about asking him if he now wants more than a friendship?

[Sweetfish]

My ex partner and I broke up a few months ago. It was hard to pin point a reason, we got along so well but at the end he seemed distracted and the spark sort of fizzled out.

When we broke up he said he couldn't imagine life without me and wanted to make sure I'd always be part of his life but I couldn't right away. We spent about a month without any contact until he approached me and we caught up.

Since then we've been hanging out basically like a couple with the intimate side. He's my best friends and I over spending time with him but I'm also still in love with him and won't move on if we're always together.

There are time when I don't hear from him for days but mostly I hear from him several times a day. He is making future plans with me and wants to be involved in every aspect of my life. It feels like we are dating again. I'm not sure how to approach the next step. I don't want this to end, but if he doesn't want to rekindle anything I'm afraid that may have to be what happens. How should I go about asking him if he now wants more than a friendship?

 

 

You say we broke up.

You mean you broke up with him?

[Sean2510]

No actually, he broke up with me. But I always had the feeling it was because he felt like it was the right thing to do not necessarily what he wanted. He was under a lot of stress at the time and I feel like that was a major part of it. When he broke up with me he was really upset. I had never seen him cry until then.

[Sweetfish]

No actually, he broke up with me. But I always had the feeling it was because he felt like it was the right thing to do not necessarily what he wanted. He was under a lot of stress at the time and I feel like that was a major part of it. When he broke up with me he was really upset. I had never seen him cry until then.

 

 

Ok.. it's the way the post was written it was hard to understand.

[Miss Clavel]

it looks like you are going to have to ask him. speak to him.

 

for the love of god, how can people get naked with each other and not speak to each other.

 

fwiw, imo, i think you are no longer "girlfriend" material, in his eyes. you are no longer someone he wants to marry.

 

just my take on the situation, and all i have to go on is what you've written.

 

it hurt him to hurt you, but he did it anyway.

 

and it's gonna hurt you more if you two are not on the same page. the page you are on now is, "the thrill is gone". you can move off that, maybe by starting to "date" again. but if the "dating" is not moving forward, to an engagement, at this point, what's the point?

 

and i would NOT live with him, or any man, without a ring and a deposit on a reception hall. all you get out of living with a man that can't commit, is older.

 

good luck

[Apricotjelly90]

It seems we're in a similar situation (read my thread a bit below).

My approach on things would be, don't ask him directly where the two of you stand. Otherwise you'll come off as needy and he'll see you havent moved on at all and he can have you whenever he wants.

Right now he doesnt see you as girlfriend material, that is true, he sees you as a friend, so in order to be seen as more than a friend you need to make him attracted to you again, wear that sexy dress, flirt a little, talk about new people in your life, specially men, don't be too obvious though, and especially don't let it get too far, after all he's your ex and there's something about the forbidden fruit that will give you points right now. After the feelings of attraction the rest will follow.