How often did/do you have contact with AP? Did amount of contact make NC harder?

[Onlywhenitrains]

Continuously throughout the day. From "good morning" to " good night". Never stopped texting, and he would call usually on his wY back from work. The same was happening on the weekends, holidays, vacations. He never told me not to text, or anything like that. I guess that's where this big emptiness in part comes from. We shared whatever was happening in our lives on a day to day basis. Or, so I think.

[Jemima1234]

He does tell me he loves me!! Not in an over the top way, more when he is having a deep moment.

 

His marriage is ok. - It's long, they married young, he still loves her! I don't know in what sense but he wouldn't want to intentionally hurt her I know that (as hard as that may seem considering his actions). It a content marriage rather than a passionate one but after so long that is to be expected I'm sure

 

It's not a nice situation for anyone and it was never meant to get this far... but when is it

 

Can I ask does he tell you if they have sex? Notice you said you have sex on average 5 times a week in a previous thread - does he sleep with his wife too? Sorry to ask am just curious!!

[PickledHead]

It's hard to say as I obviously don't know fully what happens behind closed doors. I know of 2 occasions where they have since we have been together with the last one being nearly a year ago and it affected him quite bad. He says his feelings for me make him feel like he is cheating on me and so he struggles with that especially as he knows that's a really warped logic

 

They were never an overly sexual couple so i don't think it's a massive change

 

But like I said what I know and what is real could be 2 very different things.

[aileD]

It's hard to say as I obviously don't know fully what happens behind closed doors. I know of 2 occasions where they have since we have been together with the last one being nearly a year ago and it affected him quite bad. He says his feelings for me make him feel like he is cheating on me and so he struggles with that especially as he knows that's a really warped logic

 

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You know that's a crock of **** right?

 

My H told his AP the same thing and he was all over me all the time. It's like the A made him want to have sex more at home .

[PickledHead]

As I said, I don't know what actually happens behind closed doors so there is always that possibility.

 

From what I know of them prior to me becoming involved and from what I have have witnessed or know from other people I think I know the truth but I will never be certain!! Just another ****ty side to the situation I guess

[Poppy47]

You know that's a crock of **** right?

 

My H told his AP the same thing and he was all over me all the time. It's like the A made him want to have sex more at home .

aileD

 

You expressed that so eloquently! Everything they say is a crock of it.

 

Poppy.

[aileD]

aileD

 

You expressed that so eloquently! Everything they say is a crock of it.

 

Poppy.

 

Haha. Eloquence was never my strong point! I usually just blurt things out as I see them!