lyssalaane Posted November 15, 2016 Share Posted November 15, 2016 I couldn't pick which to post in since we are friends but also have never truly been friends. The guy, who I've known since I was 13 and am turning 22 has been in and out of my life. We had an odd start of friendship which quickly turned into feelings later on never together. Only emotional which is what has been in my head for years. We have had years without contact and then out of the blue we are back just like that deep conversation we get each other and connect our souls almost. The thing is there's never been a time he or I haven't been with someone sometimes we both had been in relationship other times one or the other. It's been hard because we know each other so well and now we recently started talking and the feelings always flood back and I'm having a hard time knowing what to do. He is with someone and I'm struggling with that. I'm also struggling with my feelings as I know he feels for me. It's knowing that even if we love each other we won't be together we could hook up but I feel that could make things worse emotionally for us both. Knowing it wouldn't last. I'm just trying to make sense because he's one of the only people who truly knows me. I also know this isn't a good thing. He always texts me all day when we reconnect good mornings good nights. Ask how my day was and the like. It's hard because not only is he sweet and funny and gets my humor he is an open book with his feelings and thoughts and isn't short with me. I'm never scared to tell him how I feel about things and he genuinely wants to know things. No judgement just looking to vent and maybe advice or just if you've gone through something similar can share your story thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
bummer Posted November 16, 2016 Share Posted November 16, 2016 Will the regret of never taking it a step further be bigger than the regret of ruining your innocent friendship? Are you sure you know what his feelings are? 11 years is a long time for neither of you to step forward and try. Are you sure what his intentions are? Even if he is romantically interested, do you think it would last or if it fizzled out, could you still be platonic with him? Tread lightly. Being open and caring in a off and on friendship is easy and not a very taxing relationship. He can be those things easily now. How will that dynamic change if you become intimate or more serious? How well do you really know him? Link to post Share on other sites
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