BPD Wife Wants a Divorce

[Roses777]

After almost 7 years of off-and-on dating, my bipolar wife returned to me (she was my girlfriend at the time) late November to early December saying she didn't realize that I was perfect and that we should get married if I wanted to. She understood that she had treated me badly but wanted to spend the rest of her life with me.

 

So we made plans. I planned to move down there once I was ready but in the meantime, we started to buy rings, organize the secret wedding, etc. She told me that she was on medication so I assumed it was prescription. Instead, as I found out just before we had major problems, she was buying something off the shelf from Loblaws, the local grocery store!

 

Long story short.. She was starting to be very mean and I think she was in a discard/devalue phase before leaving on a trip. She did not take her ring and did not speak to me for most of those 3 days. She returned, tired and complaining, refusing to sleep in the same bed as me. I was upset and wanted to work things out and she kept on threatening me.

 

Fast forward to the next day. We have an argument in public, she turns around and hits me with her fists. I accidentally defended myself and she threatens divorce and saying we are completely done. I explain myself to the police that I was defending myself and no charges were made against me. This happened at the end of July and since then, I have not seen my wife and only managed to speak with her briefly 4 days afterwards, she saying we are done, she doesn't love me even though before we were discussing kids, etc.

 

I apologized, saying that I didn't want to hurt her but it was a reflex action. She did not accept this as an answer. She has since grabbed all of her things from our place while I was at work and kept me blocked. She has tried to report me to the police for harassment when I have tried to have us reconcile peacefully. She has, in the last two weeks, gone ahead and tried to separate our items in the house. Her lawyer is claiming that she will get a divorce, even though I have been with her through thick and thin and love her probably even more than her parents with feeding her over the years, buying her a winter jacket and hat, etc.

 

Will she still return? I am really concerned that she will go through with this divorce even though it is clear that we both love each other a lot. She has in the past claimed to date me only because she was lonely but I am thinking she says that because she is in a devalue phrase.

 

I cannot reach her online or off because she refuses to communicate at all.

 

Today an acquaintance and former flame claims he spoke to her and that she just wants me and her to move on from here. He says she isn't dating anyone right now from what he can tell but refused to give me anymore information beyond those tiny morsels.

[Marc878]

If you are smart you'll get down on your knees and pray she never comes back.

[RecentChange]

You want this sort of chaos for the REST OF YOUR LIFE?

 

This woman is highly unstable, as she has displayed to you repeatedly.

 

I agree, count your blessings that she is setting you free.