Asking How Much I Tipped and Calling me a Liar

[IfonlyIknew]

She sounds quite immature. In the adult world, we have bigger fish to fry - this is not one of them. To go as far as ASKING THE WAITRESS what you tipped is pathetic IMO. Does she possibly live at home with her parents? Where she only is responsible for cleaning her bedroom? I find a pattern with those people - small minded.

[Poe77]

I guess with me not "having enough to tip the waitress" with that day

 

 

Wait so you did lie to her? why is it so surprising she would have gotten upset then? I thought you didn't lie and you left something but your friend didn't think it was enough..I think IF that's the case then she still over stepped her boundaries a little (to find out if you lied) but you were also wrong in lieing about it in the 1st place..

[AugustSnow]

Wait so you did lie to her? why is it so surprising she would have gotten upset then? I thought you didn't lie and you left something but your friend didn't think it was enough..I think IF that's the case then she still over stepped her boundaries a little (to find out if you lied) but you were also wrong in lieing about it in the 1st place..

 

I didn't lie to her. She took it as me lying to her because I didn't want to go into detail about exactly what I tipped... I felt it was pointless when she wasn't the one paying the bill anyway.. I was.

[Arieswoman]

IfOnly - Post #26 sums it up nicely;

 

She sounds quite immature. In the adult world, we have bigger fish to fry - this is not one of them. To go as far as ASKING THE WAITRESS what you tipped is pathetic IMO. Does she possibly live at home with her parents? Where she only is responsible for cleaning her bedroom? I find a pattern with those people - small minded.

 

I would stop associating with this silly girl socially. Just be polite and professional with her at work.

 

Don't get dragged into explaining/justifying/and trying to understand her mindset.

 

You don't need these silly immature people in your life do you? No, I thought not.

 

Move on

[Got it]

So I talked to the upper management and told her what happened and explained to her that I wanted to be proactive. She told me that she has heard nothing but positive things about me and that I have excellent work ethic and that if she or anyone else were to make a complaint about me for some reason, then she wouldn't take that at face value but instead look at the work ethic that I have demonstrated. I am very thankful to work for an employer who is very supportive of employees.

 

As for the co-worker. She actually talked to me today and explained to me why she was disappointed. She explained that she thought we were friends and that I could tell her things, such as being more open with her about things, I guess with me not "having enough to tip the waitress" with that day and that I could have told her and that she felt a little hurt that I would keep that from her like that. I told her that she tends to have an over the top attitude which makes it hard for me to tell her things at times, and she softened up some, and said that she realizes that her and I are alike in a lot of ways which is why she likes to hang out with me. She said she never canceled Thanksgiving dinner, and that she was just upset that day and needed time to cool off. I am still keeping watch on things though because you never know anymore. I am still glad out of all of this, that the upper management has my back and knows and appreciates my work ethic, since recently the Director complimented me on my work ethic after a work meeting. Thanks everyone on here for your support as well. I am glad to know that I wasn't the one who was out of line.

 

Sounds like a very strong, rigid and controlling personality. While I agree with her on the percentage on tipping I would never think to investigate someone to prove them right/wrong.

 

All I can say, you have been warned.

[ManyDissapoint]

This reminds me of a girl I met up for a date. We went to a dive / hipster bar and drank a bunch of beers. I paid the whole tab. It was my first date in a long time, and I was nervous and edging toward the drunk side of the scale.

 

So much so that I forgot to leave a tip. I didn't even think about it. Next day she messaged me saying she couldn't date me because she had worked as a waitress and they rely on tips blah blah blah and trying to shame me for accidentally not leaving a tip (first and only time that's ever happened).

 

If she really cared about them getting a tip, why didn't she offer to pay the tip? All she cared about was coming across as self-righteous.

 

Dodged a bullet there, but it irked me that she thought she was dodging a bullet.

[AugustSnow]

This kinda reminds me of my friend she would never tip anyone ever no matter how much out of their way they went to serve her we once took a cab home from the store she asked the dude if he wouldn't mind stopping at a shop so she could "grab something real quick" I cringed cause I know how her real quick trips go and true to form she took around 15-25 mins making her selections..

 

I then had to make one quick stop on the way home too drop my rent off kinda important and it was literally slipping a envelope in a door slot..all total the guy made 2 extra stops I told my friend before we ever left the house ill pay the cab fares you cover his tips? cause I knew we would have to tip a bit as its only polite she said sure..!

 

I thought ok cool we got a plan we are good..so we get home I pay him the full fare and guess what? my friend tries to walk away with out tipping him anything...my mouth hit the floor and I was so embarrassed I said to her loud enough so everyone could hear it "SO YOU GOT THE TIP" ..she got pissed but that was the deal and if I hadn't spoken up then she was quite happy to walk away and be a cheap jerk she was also mad at me and I got the lecture on how "she doesn't make that much to tip" I was like well then dont take a cab and walk...

 

OP im not saying your a cheap jerk it sounds like you gave them something.. but the morel of the story is tipping is indeed a ediquate thing in the USA and I know how it feels to be embarrassed when the other people in your group flake on that..I think maybe your friend is going a little off the deep end at this point but she might have a point a bit..

 

My general rule is I at least give a extra 2 bucks in round town cab rides unless he really goes out of his way then I will give extra on top of that..when im at a restaurant and the service was decent I always give a little more then just the required percentage cause I know they just about do honestly work for tips most of the time if I cant then I wont go out to eat or I will get my food to go.. hair cuts always get a extra 5 bucks unless it was really poorly done..

 

 

With respect to what you are saying, your situation and mine are not the same. We both were responsible for our own meal as well as our own tips. I feel that I have paid the proper percentage that was supposed to have been paid in reflection to my bill. I just did not agree with her about the actual percent she was thinking and I really did not feel like arguing with her at a restaurant in front of folks about how much I should tip someone.

[AugustSnow]

This reminds me of a girl I met up for a date. We went to a dive / hipster bar and drank a bunch of beers. I paid the whole tab. It was my first date in a long time, and I was nervous and edging toward the drunk side of the scale.

 

So much so that I forgot to leave a tip. I didn't even think about it. Next day she messaged me saying she couldn't date me because she had worked as a waitress and they rely on tips blah blah blah and trying to shame me for accidentally not leaving a tip (first and only time that's ever happened).

 

If she really cared about them getting a tip, why didn't she offer to pay the tip? All she cared about was coming across as self-righteous.

 

Dodged a bullet there, but it irked me that she thought she was dodging a bullet.

 

That's even worse. You paying for the meal and still being judged for not leaving a tip. Don't get a me wrong, I paid a tip in my situation, but the point is, it's not like someone paid your bill FOR YOU. You paid YOUR bill AND HERS!