8 years past break up and sudden urge to check on ex + my solution

[health]

It's almost 8 years since our break up which she rebounded with a new guy 3 days later. We were together for almost 6 years.

 

I did heal and dated 3 girls in that time, but have been single for the last five years.

 

I searched her on fb. Her and that same guy are on welfare. She's on anti depressants and medical weed etc

 

I have my apartment, make good money etc - but they have each other and love I guess.

 

I feel strong being single but it hits me sometimes.

 

The last 19 girls I liked and asked out either had boyfriends or flat out rejected me.

 

I did do my 5 year goals recently as I always do.

 

So my solution to this is for the next 5 years not to ever look at her fb page or social media. I did once or twice a year since then.

 

To go for my goals and try to put myself put there to find a new girl.

 

Whether I find one or not. I guess being alone and not thinking about my ex would be better than being alone and thinking of her.

Edited November 17, 2016 by health

[Miss Clavel]

it sounds to me like she's got addiction. but on the bright side at least they've got wifi.

 

leave her alone. it's not like you could do worse.

 

work on yourself and not your stuff.

 

ask a trusted female or a sister what you can do to improve your appeacnce and/or your personality.

 

then take the steps to do so.

 

do you dress like a lumberjack? do you need braces or other dental?

 

there is something you are not telling us.

 

after that, get out there. go skating on adult night. go to the boat show. go shopping for high end cars. my personal fave, join a cooking school/class. take up horseback riding or find a computer class. even take up a foreign language.

 

just get out there.

 

i met my wasband at a hokey valentines day dance at the church. i went because i knew the band.

 

he recently got remarried, to a women he ordered on the internet. the wifey don't even speak english. the orphans tell me that he is very happy, altho he's put on over 50 pounds. i'm not happy because he's done nothing to protect his children in the event of his demise. but that's another story.

 

if you want someone in your life, go and find her.

[health]

Thank you. I'll try. I think I am attractive and have been with beautiful girls.

 

I do tend to go to work in a uniform and on my off days I dress in hip hop fashion because In involved in the business.

 

The thing is I recently bough tighter fitting shirts and suits. I will be buying more business casual gear.

 

I just feel that my hip hop sahion is the real me.

 

Like Im not 100% myself in the other clothes.

 

It's been tough, but I know I'll find a new girl.

 

I'm 34 btw.

 

Slot of times I see a girl I like and get to scared to tell her anything.

 

Two weeks ago I approached a girl on the subway and complimented her jacket. Instead of carrying or starting a convoy which I tried - she put her headphones back in her ears! Lol

These things trigger me to think of how perfect I had it in my 20s in a long term relationship with who I thought was the girl of my dreams.

 

All of this is on me. The good and bad.

 

I won't torture myself with the past.

 

I am determined to be in a loving passionate relationship again.