Social Awkwardness after breakup

[mrada34]

I'm hoping this is the right area to post this thread. If not, it can be moved. Anyways, was hoping to get some maybe advice or insight or whatever into this situation that I seem to be finding myself in as of recent. It's been six months since my last ex, who I really liked, broke up with me. I'm not going to go into too much detail about it, but it was a little bit of a messier breakup than it needed to be. I got a little clingy towards the end, she got more and more cold and distant as I was doing such. I recognize it was a pretty big mistake on my part, but you live and you learn right. That is all beside the point, though. Like I said before, it's been six months since the breakup and, though I do believe I am completely over her, I am still dealing with some of the aftermath of what follows a breakup. My self-esteem and confidence is still very very low. It gets better and better by the slightest amounts, but it's still down in the dumps. I'm having a super-hard time connecting with people and just being comfortable in social situations. I wasn't always the most talkative person in the world, but I could always at least hold a conversation rather easily if it would ever present itself. It's even happening with friends. I just feel like sometimes I may come off as too caring towards the conversation. Or too open with people. (One of the reasons my last ex broke up with me was because I might be a little bit more of an affectionate type where she does not really believe in showing affection). Maybe the reason is I'm scared everyone is going to be like my ex? I really don't know. Is this a normal thing for even six months after a breakup? Do I need to see a therapist or anything? That may be a little drastic of an action and I don't want to blow things out of proportion. I've just been noticing how more stressful social situations have gotten with me and was wondering if anyone had some advice on the matter. Thanks for reading if you have gotten this far. Hope you all are having a wonderful day.

Edited November 18, 2016 by mrada34

[bummer]

Maybe the reason is I'm scared everyone is going to be like my ex? I really don't know. Is this a normal thing for even six months after a breakup? Do I need to see a therapist or anything? That may be a little drastic of an action and I don't want to blow things out of proportion. I've just been noticing how more stressful social situations have gotten with me and was wondering if anyone had some advice on the matter. Thanks for reading if you have gotten this far. Hope you all are having a wonderful day.

 

Don't worry what other's think. Start by making sure you think you are good, balanced, happy, etc. Relax.

 

6 months is nothing. I hope you've read enough here to know everyone takes their time to grieve and recover and 1 year or 3 years is no problem. Take your time.

 

Do you need a therapist? If you think so, do it. Internet people can only make wild guesses based on a few posts from you. My advice? keep running. Keep exercising. Try yoga. Try meditating -- Youtube has some great ideas to get you started. Motivate yourself to make you better. Whether it's seeking professional help or enlisting your own faculties to calm down, check-in, and realize half the things you worry about will SOLVE THEMSELVES WITH TIME.

 

 

I hope you have a relaxed and self-assured day where you control your actions and define yourself, for you and you alone.

[Superchicken]

6 months is about the recovery point for me.

Everyone is different I suppose.

But what I did, with my break up (She have me the good bye speech as well) is to spend time with friends, and go to the Gym. I got self esteem, self confidence, and grew in a few places. Met more great people, and life went on.

Do something for yourself, and take your mind off your relationships that failed, and concentrate on you making it work better the next time around.

You now have the answers to your next "TEST Exam" (Next Girl you meet), so you should pass with flying colours when she gives you those tests, and have great bond with her.

 

 

Go do something for yourself, as you did nothing wrong, and you deserve better than the crap she dished out for you when she broke up with you.

 

 

Ted.