crazy_grl Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Originally posted by amerikajin I've gotten phone numbers before, only to call the girl up to find that she has no interest in seeing me. Not every phone number he gets is going to be from someone who's interested in him, yet people are saying that he should only get phone numbers if he intends to call. Maybe he intended to at first, maybe he get, um, well, distracted by someone more compatible. Maybe he just changed his mind - men can do that, too, ya know. Point is, it's a numbers game. He's got to get numbers in order to set up the date, and he's got to get lots of them to increase his chances of finding someone he's compatible with over the long term. You may not like it, but that's the law of the dating jungle. I'm not talking about a guy like Joel here. I'm talking about a guy who can walk into a party and probably leave with every girl in the place's number if he felt like it. He's good-looking, super charming and has his game down tight. And he's told me that he's not into dating at the moment and he gets girls' numbers but he'll probably never call. Guys like Joel who are without confidence are another story, because it's unlikely that most girls they approach will be overly disappointed that they didn't call. A few might, but probably not many. That's because of their lack of confidence. They can approach girls, flirt a lot, and get number to build their confidence up, but after they're reached a certain level, I think it's questionable to keep doing it. The bottom line is that neither the guy nor the girl likes to hear that the person they like isn't interested in them. Just because someone is going to get hurt a lot is not justification for you to hurt them. That's why it's cruel to get someone's hopes up when you have no interest in them. It's also very selfish. If you're not interested and have no intention of even calling, it's not about playing the game of love, it's about using someone else to boost your own ego. I think that's fine for people who are somewhat lacking in confidence and social skills, but for someone who's not, that's just being a jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Joel, I have a feeling about you that: 1. You like the idea of being a player, because it makes you feel important and forget that you can't find a girl you like. It's normal to be single and disappointed in people of the opposite sex for a long time and there is no need to feel frustrated over it. 2. You're more obsessed with yourself than with girls. You should think of ways to date them not to analyze your (non-existent) dating habits. 3. You're 14 years old. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Originally posted by what456 What is a player? A guy that sleeps with many girls? what is it mean when you got played? HMMM Is it just me...Or does this seem like a Mike/Knight kind of reply? Eh?! Link to post Share on other sites
PJ308 Posted July 20, 2005 Share Posted July 20, 2005 Have them all thats my motto shhhhhhhhh *i didnt say that* Link to post Share on other sites
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