Iwillheal Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 We dated for 2 years and she dumped me citing her being not ready and generally because we fight quite a lot. I've been her best friend, and main support system for 2 years and she decided to call it quits. Since D-day, we have been NC for over 3 weeks. Out of the blue, she is calling some mutual friends as well as my best friend last week wanting to talk. Wanting to justify her decision. She asked my best friend how I'm doing, and whether she should reach out to me or not. My best friend told her I'm doing and copying pretty well. She won't say why she wanted to reach out and what purpose. She is painting an extremely pitiful picture to all she is speaking to about how things are so hard for her, and how depressed she has been. So different to the first week of our BU, she was posting on how much fun she is having. To all she spoke to, she keeps emphasising that her decision was the right decision, is she just trying to rally support here? Is this what they call Dumper's regret? What is she doing here? I hope you guys give me some insight and good advice Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 I'd guess she's still reeling from the shock of actually having ended it and is self soothing in whatever way she needs to. Even if ending is the right thing to do, it doesn't necessarily mean that we will hit the ground running. A bit of navel gazing is normal. I'm glad to hear that you're doing well. Link to post Share on other sites
Cephalopod Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 Keep ignoring her. She's all butt-hurt because you didn't go chasing after her. She needs the ego kibbles of knowing you miss her and want her back. The minute you contact her, her ego will be satiated and she will dump you like a hot rock. She doesn't want you back. She wants you to want her back. There is a difference. Keep on keeping on and ignore her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Iwillheal Posted November 22, 2016 Author Share Posted November 22, 2016 Are you saying that this pitiful act is meant to communicate a message to me to run to her to soothe her? Don't worry I'm not going to because I've made progress this far and it won't make sense for me to do that. I feel it's more to rally everyone to agree that she made the right decision than to get me to take action Link to post Share on other sites
Cephalopod Posted November 22, 2016 Share Posted November 22, 2016 Are you saying that this pitiful act is meant to communicate a message to me to run to her to soothe her? Don't worry I'm not going to because I've made progress this far and it won't make sense for me to do that. I feel it's more to rally everyone to agree that she made the right decision than to get me to take action I didn't say it was to make you do anything. Talk to your best friend and make things cool with him. To hell with the mutual friends. Sounds like she does not want her friends to play with you anymore. Waaaa! What is she? Twelve? Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted November 22, 2016 Share Posted November 22, 2016 Tell your friends, and especially your best friend, that you don't give 2 hoots what she does or doesn't do, feels or doesn't feel, or who she talks to or doesn't talk to. Tell them that you don't want to be given any more information or updates about her. And if they do carry on giving you updates, your reply should be "I don't care. Can we change the subject please" Link to post Share on other sites
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