PinkDotsXOXO Posted November 21, 2016 Share Posted November 21, 2016 Thank you in advance for all your help! My ex boyfriend, who I'll call Andrew, and I broke up last summer (Jan 2015 - June 2015) but we continued to hook up until April of 2016. In May, he started to date someone new and they just broke up today. During his time with her, I went NC with Andrew for 2 months after which we begin to talk here and there which progressed to talking everyday. he did not tell his girlfriend because she hates me understandably so me being the ex. Now that Andrew is single again I would really like to try to date him again as I still have feelings for him he's always been there when I needed him and was a great boyfriend while we were together and is still a good friend . I just don't know how to go about it without actually asking him and putting him on the spot as I'm sure he's unsure of his feelings right now. What can I do to tip the scales in my favor? Link to post Share on other sites
sc98cbra Posted November 22, 2016 Share Posted November 22, 2016 (edited) I'm currently going through a break-up myself, so take my advice with a grain of salt. I hope to reconcile with my ex (female "dumper") in the future, so I have spent an enormous amount of time reading and researching break-up/reconciliation advice. If you have strong feelings for this guy, and if you are willing to accept that things may not end up in your favor, I would take a risk and reach out to him. Things may work out in your favor (i.e., you guys get back together) or things may not work out in your favor (your heart is shattered again). He is currently not your boyfriend, so, honestly, you have nothing really to lose by reaching out to him (except another broken heart). Personally, if you truly see a future with this guy, I would start slow and go from there. I wouldn't come in too strong (i.e., don't say "I miss you"). Start by asking for a coffee "date" or a lunch "date" (just don't mention it as a date when you ask him to meet up). Try to make it a relatively short meeting. If things go well, and you guys have a good time, you've essentially planted a "seed" and he may start thinking about you more. Remember, the relationship ended for a reason, so you should make sure that that reason is no longer an issue. Always remember, leave before you're left. Best Edited November 22, 2016 by sc98cbra 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BluesPower Posted November 22, 2016 Share Posted November 22, 2016 It depends... Why did you guys break up? That kind of determines where you can go from here. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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