Why the heck do dumpers delete the dumpee off social media?

[Leojax]

As the dumper, have you ever deleted your ex or someone that you weren't in a relationship with but really cared about a lot off social media? Why?

 

I was sort of with this girl and I liked her a lot. Started to fall for her. Things went funky between us and I was going through some life changes and let things go. Things didn't end badly at all between us. Well this was about 3 months ago and we've been officially NC for about a month. We're still friends on Snapchat. I don't know how it looks doing it after this long...

[Toodaloo]

Yes because I didn't want to read that s*** because it would slow down my healing.

 

I take forever and a day to get over people regardless of who dumps who so quite frankly getting them out of my life is really important to kick start me.

 

For me personally its around about a third to half the time we were together than it takes me to get over them. Because once I am with someone that is the person I invest my emotions in. So a six month relationship will take me 2-4 months to get over... So when it ends I know its a year wasted on one person. Sod that. I am going to make it as easy for myself as possible to get over them.

[Leojax]

So why delete us? Wasn't dumping us enough? Just add salt to the wounds to the wounds why don't you lol.

 

I guess I'm having a hard time understanding. You don't want the dumpees so I don't see the need to delete them except to be a jerk.

 

My ex deleted me off Snapchat (only social media tie we had). It's only been a month of full NC. I don't look at her posts (it tells the user who has viewed them). Haven't said a word to her. I was just going about my business. I have been posting on snapchat like me going out with my friends, enjoying the fall weather, etc. I was perfectly fine then she deletes me? I think that's pretty immature when there was no bad blood and I hadn't said anything to her. Heck, the day after I completely blocked her number and phone calls. She doesn't even post on Snapchat that often so what does it matter to have me on there especially if I don't look at your stuff?

 

Then a week later her good friend randomly requested me on snapchat*rolls eyes*. She's had my number all this time (add people on snapchat by #) and now you add me? Fine time to do it.

 

Just all seems immature and rude to be honest.

 

Sorry just confused and needed to vent haha.

[IfonlyIknew]

Ive dumped and deleted just to help move on it's nothing personal it's just kind of closing the chapter.

[VeveCakes]

Maybe she has a new bf and wants to spare you or doesnt want you know what shes doing in life.

 

Maybe she is having a hard time moving on.

 

Maybe she just is cleaning house.

 

Could be any reason. You have to not dwell on the whys on little things like this.

[Leojax]

Ive dumped and deleted just to help move on it's nothing personal it's just kind of closing the chapter.

 

Thanks. I guess the reason why I think it's all so silly is because like I said I'm not bothering her. Don't look her stuff and I thought we were on good terms. All a recipe (to me) just keep it moving.

 

We had a stupid game of "I don't want to look like a fool so I'm going to back off" after an minor argument and then in turn other would back off-so it just created distance. No one ever said I don't like you anymore or I don't want to do this anymore. This had to be the dumbest breakup that could've been fixed to be honest. I eventually got tired of the games and asked her what was going on and I got ignored. The next day is when I blocked her. All of this is just so stupid. The 'break up' to the deleting me for no reason. So DUMB

[Leojax]

Maybe she has a new bf and wants to spare you or doesnt want you know what shes doing in life.

 

Maybe she is having a hard time moving on.

 

Maybe she just is cleaning house.

 

Could be any reason. You have to not dwell on the whys on little things like this.

 

She didn't delete my friend so I highly doubt she's cleaning house and wants to spare my feelings.

 

I was perfectly fine and moving on just fine. It just adds insult to injury is all.

[VeveCakes]

She didn't delete my friend so I highly doubt she's cleaning house and wants to spare my feelings.

 

I was perfectly fine and moving on just fine. It just adds insult to injury is all.

 

You asked but apparently you know why she did it? Why do you think she did it then?

[BC1980]

Exes (both dumper and dumpee) delete you off social media to move on. You can't move on with constant reminders of your ex. I was the dumpee and immediately deleted all pics of my ex. It wasn't meant to hurt him but to protect me and allow me to move on.

[Leojax]

You asked but apparently you know why she did it? Why do you think she did it then?

 

I never said I knew. I said I highly doubt. There's a difference.

[Kayley]

My ex blocked me on instagram the day after the break up cos I put a quote on saying something like 'Pick yourself up it'll be okay I promise'

 

He said he did it because he didn't like what he had done to me...makes no sense.

 

He deactivated his facebook for like 3/4 days...he reactivated it & I deleted him 3 days later when I went NC. I also removed him from snapchat....I don't know why he blocked me on instagram but nowhere else.

[NopeNah]

I deleted my ex because I still have feelings for her and don't want to see her life without me. Her out with friends,trips,new relationship,ect.. I broke up with her so, her life is none of my business.

[VeveCakes]

I never said I knew. I said I highly doubt. There's a difference.

 

ok....so why then? Since you dismiss the reasons given...

[malebroken]

My ex deleted me from all social media, snapchat, instagram, facebook, twitter.

Bit that hurts is we had a hashtag of all my son from the pregnancy test to when we split. I've now lost all that. She still has all my friends n family added though n she hasn't deleted one pic of me

[Leojax]

My ex deleted me from all social media, snapchat, instagram, facebook, twitter.

Bit that hurts is we had a hashtag of all my son from the pregnancy test to when we split. I've now lost all that. She still has all my friends n family added though n she hasn't deleted one pic of me

 

Sorry to hear that. I know that hurts. How are you getting along with things now?

[basil67]

People delete exes so that they can move on. It's not dumb.

[Leojax]

Exes (both dumper and dumpee) delete you off social media to move on. You can't move on with constant reminders of your ex. I was the dumpee and immediately deleted all pics of my ex. It wasn't meant to hurt him but to protect me and allow me to move on.

 

Thanks for the insight. I get the deleting the person immediately-a clean break. I guess I'm just having a hard time understanding why delete someone a month later.

[Leojax]

People delete exes so that they can move on. It's not dumb.

 

I don't think it's dumb. I think it's immature and silly to do it much later on when that person hasn't been contacting you and hasn't been looking at your social media (this particular app shows you who has viewed your post). She didn't remove my friends who she never interacts with so I know it wasn't her just removing people she no longer talks to. Like I was saying to midwest I understand doing it early on, but a month later is what makes it silly to me.

[Leojax]

ok....so why then? Since you dismiss the reasons given...

 

All the things you listed are plausible. Some are less plausible that's all I was saying. She didn't delete my friends so she wasn't trying to spare my feelings because they can still run back and tell me what's she's posting if I/they wanted. She also completely ignored me when I asked what was going on with us when we "broke up". Remember no one ever called anything off. So I doubt she gives a crap about my feelings since she didn't have the decency to give an answer. Again, these are all very much possibilities just less probable in my eyes.

[basil67]

I don't think it's dumb. I think it's immature and silly to do it much later on when that person hasn't been contacting you and hasn't been looking at your social media (this particular app shows you who has viewed your post). She didn't remove my friends who she never interacts with so I know it wasn't her just removing people she no longer talks to. Like I was saying to midwest I understand doing it early on, but a month later is what makes it silly to me.

 

Actually you wrote "so dumb" in bold on post #4. It's what I was referring to.

 

When it comes down to it, you can think what you like. But the truth is, she's doing what she needs to do for herself in the timeline which is working for her.

[VeveCakes]

you friends are not you...

 

I deleted my ex and didn't delete his friends...they are not him so why would I delete them.

 

I think it doesn't matter in the end. Just try and not worry about the why...

[Leojax]

Actually you wrote "so dumb" in bold on post #4. It's what I was referring to.

 

When it comes down to it, you can think what you like. But the truth is, she's doing what she needs to do for herself in the timeline which is working for her.

 

Oh no I meant how everything got to this point

 

I said: "All of this is just so stupid. The 'break up' to the deleting me for no reason. So DUMB"

 

Sorry if you thought I was saying deleting is dumb. Again, I get self-preservation and looking out for yourself. In my mind since she just disappeared and factor in the time (month of absolute NC) she wouldn't need to delete me. Thought she was more than fine.

[Michelle ma Belle]

Why do you care so much?

 

I mean, you're broken up. How and/or why people do what they do when they're dealing with a break up doesn't have to make sense to anyone but to them regardless if it's amicable or not. Period.

 

She's not your problem anymore.

[malebroken]

Sorry to hear that. I know that hurts. How are you getting along with things now?

 

I'm really not coping TBH.

[Emmafive]

Why do you care so much?

 

I mean, you're broken up. How and/or why people do what they do when they're dealing with a break up doesn't have to make sense to anyone but to them regardless if it's amicable or not. Period.

 

She's not your problem anymore.

 

Nothing directed towards you Michelle ma Belle at all

but Gah. I hate when people ask this question lol. Of course since we're not in it its a lot easier to ask and say "it doesn't matter", "why do you care?". People care because they've lost someone that they cared about. The breakup is still fresh. Even if it wasn't we're still human and people still care. Getting over someone isn't a linear process. You're going to have moments where you care about things and where you don't.

 

You could easily ask the ex why did she care about OP's mere presence to delete him?

 

Everyone deals with these sort of things differently. Speaking from experience getting deleted hurts. Hurts even more when it seems, for a lack of better words, unwarranted. So I think its natural to care when this happens.