Author pretty_simple Posted March 16, 2017 Author Share Posted March 16, 2017 And sorry, but I don't believe in such a thing as "emotional affair". Either you have an affair, or you don't. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Hey if you feel you can handle being his friend, listening to him talk about other girls he wants to nail as well as his marital problems then go ahead. I wish you luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author pretty_simple Posted March 16, 2017 Author Share Posted March 16, 2017 Hey if you feel you can handle being his friend, listening to him talk about other girls he wants to nail as well as his marital problems then go ahead. I wish you luck. Why do you assume he does that? Link to post Share on other sites
FoundMyStrength Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 (edited) And sorry, but I don't believe in such a thing as "emotional affair". Either you have an affair, or you don't. Tell that to myself and xMM who spent several months in constant contact, saying I love you day and night, and being the first person we talked to in the morning and the last before bed. Emotional affairs DO happen. Married people can fall in love, and when they do = emotional affair. If I was still in contact with xMM, I'd be providing a level of caring and support that would be driven by love, and in doing so, compromising his marriage. That level of caring and support should be coming from his wife, not me. Edited March 16, 2017 by FoundMyStrength 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 (edited) -------------------------- Edited March 16, 2017 by stillafool Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Why do you assume he does that? Because as his platonic friend this is what you do. He should now be able to talk about how much he hates cheating on his wife while he is grooming some new girl. If that happens does that mean you will no longer get jealous because you two are friends? I highly doubt it and you are fooling yourself about this so called friendship. If you really want to end the affair and move on to a healthier life you will go NC with him, ignore and move on. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BenchCoach Posted March 16, 2017 Share Posted March 16, 2017 Judging by your response and overall attitude with the advice you've been receiving, you sound pretty young and naïve. I can already see what's in store for you... this is not over... not by a long shot. I predict you'll be back in the sack with him in no time at all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author pretty_simple Posted March 16, 2017 Author Share Posted March 16, 2017 Because as his platonic friend this is what you do. He should now be able to talk about how much he hates cheating on his wife while he is grooming some new girl. If that happens does that mean you will no longer get jealous because you two are friends? I highly doubt it and you are fooling yourself about this so called friendship. If you really want to end the affair and move on to a healthier life you will go NC with him, ignore and move on. I guess only I know the truth, right? Why do you want to prove so much that you're right (which you obviously are not) you have no bloody idea what kind of person he is, you only speak by yourself, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are right, am I correct? I have HAD an affair with him, I'm pretty sure I don't have it now, but you all know better.... You know what we do, you know what we feel, what we think about, what we talk about, nice. And I have no !@#$%&+ idea what I'm talking about. Link to post Share on other sites
BluesPower Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 Listen, I understand that you think this advice and the opinions that you are getting are just so harsh. I get that. What you are hearing is advice from men and women that have either been victims of affairs or have been in affairs like you currently are. Yes you are. You are still having an emotional affair with your AP. Oh, you are just friends, OK. So what will happen when one or both of you have a really stressful week at work, and the home life for one or both of you has really sucked this week as well. You go out as friends for a drink or two, and then you say screw it, let's get a hotel room and you are back in the sack again. All of us have either had it happen to them or have participated in out ourselves. I for one tried to be friends with one of my AP, and how long do you think it was before we were screwing our brains out? Couple of weeks, that is how long. That is how it will work with you if you do not heed the advice we are giving you. Think about it... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted March 17, 2017 Share Posted March 17, 2017 I guess only I know the truth, right? Why do you want to prove so much that you're right (which you obviously are not) you have no bloody idea what kind of person he is, you only speak by yourself, it doesn't necessarily mean that you are right, am I correct? I have HAD an affair with him, I'm pretty sure I don't have it now, but you all know better.... You know what we do, you know what we feel, what we think about, what we talk about, nice. And I have no !@#$%&+ idea what I'm talking about. You are correct in that you are the only one who knows the truth as to whether you can have an authentic friendship with this MM. Link to post Share on other sites
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