Is my boyfriend ready to settle down?

[Ashm93]

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. I am 23, he is 28 Our relationship has been great, the first three years was great, we spent all our time together. He is 5 years older so he should be more mature and ready to settle down. He met some friends about a year ago, they are very immature, still live with parents and all they do is party. They have completely changed my boyfriend. He still takes care of me and does everything for me, he is a great boyfriend but now, his one friend in specific is with us ALL the time. He thirds wheel with us everywhere. We see him everyday. My boyfriend and I never go to the movies or out to dinner or any fun activities unless his friend comes with us. I tell him I want to do things with him alone except he tells me I'm controlling his life and that I never "have fun".... What the heck. It makes me very mad and almost like I'm competing with his friend. Help me everyone

[MidwestUSA]

He's regressing, making up for lost party days, while you're still maturing. You were both quite young when you started dating.

 

I'm afraid that what you see now is what you have to look forward to, until he is ready to settle down. Chances are, it will be with someone else.

[Mr. Lucky]

I tell him I want to do things with him alone except he tells me I'm controlling his life and that I never "have fun".... What the heck. It makes me very mad and almost like I'm competing with his friend. Help me everyone

 

I'd be even more direct, as in "I want to go out without Joe" and see what happens.

 

Agree with MWUSA, what you see is what you'll get going forward. Plan accordingly...

 

Mr. Lucky

[Ashm93]

Thanks for the replies, you guys. I appreciate it <3

Edited November 28, 2016 by Ashm93