PeteS Posted November 23, 2016 Share Posted November 23, 2016 My wife and I have been married for 25 years, we met in a dingy night club I use to bounce at and have been together ever since. Over the last 10 years I have let myself go, gotten far to fat and inactive. We own a small business and work together every day. She is gorgeous and gets better with age. She has given me no reason to think she has or will cheat on me. Because of work we can not go on holidays together and she does work very hard. Occasionally she does go away with a couple of girlfriends for a weekend and she wants to go on a cruise with her girlfriend for 7 days for relaxing. I have been a complete ******* about this as I know I have unfounded fears, but yet I still have them. I am always thinking that if she has to much to drink she may get into a situation that will go to far. I dont want to think this way but for the life of me I can not get it out of my head. How can I be rational and get over this paranoia ? Link to post Share on other sites
MrBojangles Posted November 23, 2016 Share Posted November 23, 2016 Rather than sit around being paranoid, becoming clingy and insecure, now would be a great opportunity to step up your game. Start by working hard to get into better shape physically. While I personally would not vacation seperately from my SO, it seems impractical in your situation vacationing together due to the business. So unless you find concrete evidence that she is betraying you, or will betray you, I would not get too worked up without solid reason. Instead you should focus on getting yourself in the best possible shape, and avoid becoming too clingy and controlling with her. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 23, 2016 Share Posted November 23, 2016 Just because an opportunity may present itself doesn't mean it gets explored. That's your first mistake. Unless you think your wife is beyond weak and has given you countless reasons to question her commitment to your marriage you are being completely irrational. I'm with MrBojangles, rather than sit and stew and look for problems where there are none use the time to re-evaluate your life and your well being and the part you play in your marriage. The best place to start to change things is with YOURSELF! Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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