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I want my GF's sister. [UPDATE: Ex is texting me wanting a fight.]

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Last night, I got into a fight again with my girlfriend of 2 months. She told me she keeps letting me down, and wants me to be happy. I said I'm willing to work on it.

 

So, I talk to her sister now and then to vent about our problems. She's very understanding and we agree on a lot of things. The thing is, I think I'm falling for her. She's beautiful, smart, funny and seems like my type. But she's my GF's sister. I don't know what to do, I want her so bad, but I'm afraid I might ruin it somehow.

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A gf of 2 months who you are fighting with and who you need to consult someone else about, is a gf you need to get rid of, as the first 2 months should be about hearts and flowers and NOT about arguments and fights. YOU are not compatible as a couple. add to the fact you are attracted to the sister then just end it NOW.

Keep in touch with the sister, and after an appropriate time weeks months depending on how badly the gf takes it, then just ask the sister out.

She may not want to go out with you though, out of loyalty to her sister or because she is not attracted to you, or because venting to her about her sister may have turned her off...

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Stop thinking about your own selfish needs and think about what this could do to their relationship.....just part ways with both of them and move on before you make a bigger mess of things.

 

BTW an act of kindness doesn't mean they want to get with you.

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If you cant stop fighting at 2 months, why are you with her? The early stages are the best it is going to get.

 

Just leave them both alone.

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Me & my gf have been fighting, and I had a talk with her friend. Her friend said that she's really sensitive, & she really loves me.

 

So, I texted her today, after 2 days of no talking & said "is it true about what your friend said, how you feel about me?" She replied "I love you."

 

I said to her that I love her too, but she won't talk about her feelings with me. I told her to open up to me but she told me she's shy. It was like when we were fighting she didn't want to me how she felt about us.

 

I told her to work on it for our relationship. Does anybody have any insight why she's "shy" when it comes to her telling how she feels about me?

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An important two part question people will need to help you is how long have you been together and how much time do you spend together?

 

She probably has anxiety talking about her feelings because there's a level of uncertainty about where your relationship is going to go and she doesn't want to risk making herself vulnerable yet. But I think we need the answer to that question first.

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An important two part question people will need to help you is how long have you been together and how much time do you spend together?

 

She probably has anxiety talking about her feelings because there's a level of uncertainty about where your relationship is going to go and she doesn't want to risk making herself vulnerable yet. But I think we need the answer to that question first.

 

We've been together for about 2 months i would say. We don't spend a lot of time together. She's sensitive, and gets upset when I'm angry with her, never fights me. I feel bad now that I know how she feels.

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We've been together for about 2 months i would say. We don't spend a lot of time together. She's sensitive, and gets upset when I'm angry with her, never fights me. I feel bad now that I know how she feels.

 

 

I would not force her to open up... she will reject you if her feeling are too great. Kinda go with the flow.. she will open up.

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We've been together for about 2 months i would say. We don't spend a lot of time together. She's sensitive, and gets upset when I'm angry with her, never fights me. I feel bad now that I know how she feels.

 

At two months, you're fighting, while not even spending much time together? Why are you angry at her?

 

You're not off to a good start. You don't 'tell someone' to open up to you. You provide compassion and encouragement, and wait.

 

What on earth could you be fighting about at two months? Of course she's not going to open up. You only feel bad now because she said she loves you? How long will that last?

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How is it possible that she loves you after only two months? Especially when you don't spend much time together and you fight?

 

This relationship sounds like it has communication issues, trust issues, and probably lots of other issues if you are fighting after only two months. I would suggest that you both need to learn more about communication and relationships.

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Agree with the other posts. How old are you guys?

 

But also, if you really want her to open up to you, you shouldn't be having serious conversations about your relationship and your feelings over text message.

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I myself can relate to her being somewhat closed off when talking about her feelings. If you really care for her, I would suggest being patient and encouraging her to show her you're a safe and trustworthy person that's not going anywhere (if that is how you feel). It sounds like you two just need more honest communication. Put down the phone and talk to each other. I think you will find it might clear up a few things. Goodluck!

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We've been together for about 2 months i would say. We don't spend a lot of time together. She's sensitive, and gets upset when I'm angry with her, never fights me. I feel bad now that I know how she feels.

 

Two months is too early to be in love.

What exactly are you looking for her to tell you??

 

You have much bigger problems then her not opening up.

You are only two months together, why are you angry at her? What's the fighting about? it doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. How old are you both?

How often do you see her?

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We've been fighting about her not communicating with me, guys flirting with her, I have a lot of trust issues. I tend to overthink things and I'm insecure.

 

She's starting to call me more often now. I told her I don't want to fight over stupid things anymore, & she'all try to open up to me more to help our relationship...

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It's over with my GF, caught her cheating on Christmas Eve. She wants to be with him instead of me. I lashed out, said some mean things to her, kinda went overboard.

 

I unfriended her and her sister online. But tonight her sister requested to be my friend again. She told me I need to let her go, that I should know my worth, if she doesn't want you, then someone will (hint, hint.) She's the one I ran to when me and my ex had problems & she always has the right answers. I asked her if we could remain friends because she's pretty cool, still waiting for her reply.

 

She's closer to my age, has it together, more mature. She actually acknowledge my birthday, when her sister didn't. I'm attracted to her. She's more beautiful. Recently broke up with her bf too. But she's my EX-girlfriends sister.

 

My heart is broken, but a rebound doesn't sound too shabby. I want her, there was always something about her. Should I go for it? If so, tell me how to go about this...

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It's over with my GF, caught her cheating on Christmas Eve. She wants to be with him instead of me. I lashed out, said some mean things to her, kinda went overboard.

 

I unfriended her and her sister online. But tonight her sister requested to be my friend again. She told me I need to let her go, that I should know my worth, if she doesn't want you, then someone will (hint, hint.) She's the one I ran to when me and my ex had problems & she always has the right answers. I asked her if we could remain friends because she's pretty cool, still waiting for her reply.

 

She's closer to my age, has it together, more mature. She actually acknowledge my birthday, when her sister didn't. I'm attracted to her. She's more beautiful. Recently broke up with her bf too. But she's my EX-girlfriends sister.

 

My heart is broken, but a rebound doesn't sound too shabby. I want her, there was always something about her. Should I go for it? If so, tell me how to go about this...

 

 

So you don't listen to the advice here.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/605224-she-told-me-she-loves-me-first-time#post7150024

 

now you want to work on the sister? What next the mother?:lmao:

 

Advice is to bail while you can and learn some respect for your self and build your confidence as guys will always will be crawling around women.

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So you don't listen to the advice here.

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/605224-she-told-me-she-loves-me-first-time#post7150024

 

now you want to work on the sister? What next the mother?:lmao:

 

Advice is to bail while you can and learn some respect for your self and build your confidence as guys will always will be crawling around women.

 

My ex cheated on me, I couldn't control that.

 

I have self respect, but something tells me I should be with her sister. I just have that feeling. She cares about me more than my ex does, I'll know that much.

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My ex cheated on me, I couldn't control that.

 

I have self respect, but something tells me I should be with her sister. I just have that feeling. She cares about me more than my ex does, I'll know that much.

 

If you honestly believe hooking up with your ex's sister is going to work out well, you are in a for a gongshow of a reality check.

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Ask her out for New Years.

 

Let her decide if she wants to cross that line before you get all deep in your fantasizing about her.

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You are not over your ex yet and even if you get with the sister you will still pine for the ex while watching her move on to the other guy.

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I've been in this situation 2 times before.

 

-My ex left me for my brother. They're still together, I got over it after a week, we're still good friends.

 

-Dated a girl in High School. We broke up when she got pregnant with someone else. Crossed paths with her sister 7 years later, we got together & had a serious relationship. Ex didn't mind much.

 

I mean, my ex is happy without me obviously. I always had a thing for her sister, I feel she has feelings too. If we all play nice, what's the harm?

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