EX Arrested and just found out!!!

[Catwoman00]

So here I am. Completely stressed out at the moment. My body is just on overload and I'm just spinning from so many emotions, but let me just start from the beginning I guess.

 

I Have an ex husband, who I have a child with. We where very young when we got together. I was 19 and he was 22. I was actually finishing up college and he was in the military and we ended up getting married when I turned 20, and we found out pretty quickly that I was pregnant with our daughter. We did not live together before the whole marriage thing happened. When we did move in together that is when things became apparent that my prince charming had some very dark secrets. I ended up finding his porn... not a big deal right.....no.... a million HOURS of it.... weird things I have never heard of before, also craigslist, adult friends finder, Ashley Madison. He was actively looking, talking and having outside relationships with other people besides his weird fetishes online. I was shocked. I confronted him and it just started a big spiral down a path of realizing that this man I married had a sexual addition.

I mean it was years of fighting to get him to stop cheating, and looking at gross weird porn, and masturbating none stop. I left him once hoping he would get help for his family but he never did. He loved men and women, I mean the man was sick. So, I knew that the only way I could protect myself from STD's and strangers and protect our daughter, I had to leave again for good. He was fine with us leaving by then anyways....

 

He pretty much abandoned myself and his daughter back in his home town with no money and he stopped talking to me for a long time. I took him to court and was able to get child support which was great but he never built a relationship with our daughter. To be honest, I was always really weirded out about having him around her because he is gross. He made me feel uneasy and I never left her alone with him when he did visit one or twice a year for a few hours. One year, my niece came to me and said that he touched her inappropriately. This is her UNCLE!!! I begged my sister in law to do something but I think they didn't know what to do or put my niece through that process. To this day, I'm still blown away that no one called him on this. His sister has no relationship with him now of course and now will not speak with him. I talk with him only about our daughter, child support, or his new fiance who I in contact with as well. She is kinda weird herself, i barely know this woman, lets call her K.... K sends me text messages all the time asking me about my husband and my step children, what they want for Christmas. Or when I'm going to send my daughter over to their house (OVER MY DEAD BODY) and I've very nicely stated reason why due to their not being a relationship not build there. the real reason is i just don't trust her dad but his GF doesn't need to hear that. ANYWAYS!!

 

Which brings me to present day. On Monday, I was at work and my co-worker said that a police officer was looking for me. I introduced myself and asked what it was about. He said it was private and asked if he could go into in office. So we went to my office and he told me that my ex husband was in jail right now for a predatory sex crime of a minor. That he has PRIORS (that I had no knowledge of) and that a district attorney needs to speak with me about it and make me aware of the situation. I nearly threw up on him but was not surprised though. I gave him my number for the attorney and had to go back to work after hearing all that. So, later that day the attorney calls me and takes down my statement about all the things I know about him and his past. I get to ask about the case and I just sooooooo UPSET. Two children, 5 and 7 raped.... babies....these are someones babies!! how terrible!! and his priors have to do with two teenage girls that he entered a plee for. Then it got worse.... She told me he was arrested back in JULY and no one told me. Now this is why I am on here and I am just beyond upset. Not only is this disgusting and terrible and he should be in jail to the full exstent of the law... but I've been lied to by his parents, and his stupid ass GF for the past 3 1/2 months!!! I have been getting text messages from his phone.....so I know now that those where from K.... that wh@*e....... his parents are paying for lawyer because they told me and I called them a spoke with my father in law who I've always been close with. He told me that "oh he is redeemed now, because he fallows god, and reads his bible and loves god and I've seems such a change" OMG..... I nearly died. This man knows he did it but thinks that now that reads the bible... that he deserves redemption from the law. Both his granddaughters have been impacted by this horrible human being who. Those are someones babies.... I'm just so sick over all this, I just don't know what to say or do. I don't want to talk to my in laws anymore because they are supporting a monster. I know its their son but they know he's sick, and I'm so angry that they thought it was a good idea to not tell anyone in the family that there son was in jail for a sex crime. I'm really upset that I was not informed about his priors before our divorce because he has joint legal custody. I'm getting ride of that RIGHT way. Okay I'm done venting.

[Mr. Lucky]

I'd be angry too, no excuse for putting you and your child in harm's way. Simply cut all contact with the entire clan, let the legal process play out. Wouldn't be surprised if you were deposed or asked to testify.

 

Did you tell the police about the allegations regarding your niece?

 

Mr. Lucky

[aileD]

Take your anger and focus it on getting his parental rights removed.

 

You don't need his child support that much and your child doesn't need him in her life.

 

Then walk away and spend your energy on raising your kid.

 

It does no good to argue with people who defend pedophiles. My uncle is a convicted pedophile and my grandmother would always be mad at ME for not going to events and holidays if he was going to be there. You can't change their logic. Just get away from it

[Catwoman00]

Mr Lucky- yes I mentioned it but without my sister in laws cooperation they can't really use any of that with this case. I have no clue if they will call on me to state anything. I'm just still so sick over all of this. The stress is overwhelming.

[Expectmore]

Erase this from you and your kids life.

Any one can have problems and do bad things. But kids have no defense against Evil people.

Hope you get through it all quickly.