bruindds Posted November 28, 2016 Share Posted November 28, 2016 I am dealing with loneliness for the first time in my adult life. I am 49 and I was married for 20+ years, then quickly got in a relationship after that, which just ended 2 months ago. I know dealing with this and learning to be by myself is good for me, but I miss having a relationship/connection. I already want to start dating because of this. I have pretty good support with friends and family, but the loneliness is tough! Any suggestions? I know I need to see the forest and not this one tree! Link to post Share on other sites
Expectmore Posted November 28, 2016 Share Posted November 28, 2016 Well being here helps. We all have had our problems and no one wants to be lonely. Some one will always talk to you here and give you support. Its not a chat site but people are always on 24-7. Just post you need to talk or something and bingo you have a friend. Link to post Share on other sites
Expectmore Posted November 28, 2016 Share Posted November 28, 2016 Have some fun for a bit. Dont get hooked on the first girl you meet up with. Take a few test drives so to speak to get a feel for the fit and finish before you buy in. 20 yrs is a stretch. Take a momemt and try something new. Good luck man.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Pete2304 Posted November 29, 2016 Share Posted November 29, 2016 I am dealing with loneliness for the first time in my adult life. I am 49 and I was married for 20+ years, then quickly got in a relationship after that, which just ended 2 months ago. I know dealing with this and learning to be by myself is good for me, but I miss having a relationship/connection. I already want to start dating because of this. I have pretty good support with friends and family, but the loneliness is tough! Any suggestions? I know I need to see the forest and not this one tree! I've come out of a ten year marriage and I'm only 31 so really in no position to give you advice but I found that the first time I realised anther woman found me attractive helped a lot and you've clearly had what is basically a rebound fling and so you should take something from that, knowing that you are still attractive. I felt for a few weeks that I would never meet an attractive woman again but went on a couple of dates and whilst they didn't work out long term, they weren't blind dates, both were with women I've known for a while. It made me realise sometime in the future, when I'm ready, relationships hopefully will happen. I've also gotten in contact with old friends who I've maybe not made enough effort with over the years knowing that the suggestion of a night out with them might have caused a row but the last few months I've seen and spoke to some people I really should have spent more time with and it cheers you up. The dark nights are awful, that feeling when you wake up and feel like you're the only person in the world but I've found rather than lie in bed thinking for hours, stick the TV on or something for half an hour, fall back asleep. I've started going to watch my football team a lot more since we split and I've joined a pool team. Not a fix but a small help. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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