Does he cheat?

[Marsha]

I have a boyfriend who is 25 and is 8 years younger then me. Before meeting with me he used to date girls his own age or much younger. When we've first started out relationship we kind of agreed that it would be just for fun, he is not mature enough to make any commitment. We've been dating for almost a year now. A little over a month ago I've got this gut feeling that he has someone else because he doesn't spend weekends with me anymore and when I ask him why he gets angry and aggrevated and says that he has to work during the weekend. I also asked him if he has someone but he denied to even talk about it. My feeling is that, the girl that he wants to date or already dating lives with her parents so the only time he can meet with her would be the weekend. I am the one who lives alone and is available during the week so he comes to my house every other night. I've tried to talk to him again but he refuses to and says that he feels that I do not trust him. I'd love to do so but I know he's changed. It drives me crazy to understand why he is still coming to my house, I always tell him that he is free to have fun with someone else but I am not going to be involved with him anymore if he does so. Please, HELP!!!!

[sparkle]

Call him up and tell him it's over. And then move on and find yourself a guy that is more considerate.

 

First of all, whether he's cheating on you or not isn't what concerns me. It's the fact that he gets defensive, angry, and gets an attitude when you ask him about this. If he cared about you or cared about this relationship, he would NOT react in this manner. If he saw that this was concerning you, he'd try to talk to you about it and try to come to an understanding/solution.

 

You don't deserve this from him. Find yourself a guy that's more mature. Maybe it may be better to date someone your age or older; on the average, 33 year old guys tend to be more mature than 25 year olds.

 

Secondly, his reaction is a big sign that he's lying to you. If he had nothing to hide, he would not be so quick to get defensive and upset, or deny even talking about it. He would try to talk about it to clear it up and offer an explanation or get to the bottom of the misunderstanding.

 

Leave him and find someone better. You already have enough reasons to. This guy seems like a rude, inconsiderate liar. And you don't trust him anymore; and once trust is compromised, it is really difficult to get things back to the way they used to be.

[Marsha]

Thanks for your reply. What you've just said is what my mind trying to tell me to do for the last month but I did not do it just for the sake of not being alone. I guess I am just loosing my time on him and trying to figure out why did he do it.

 

Thanks Again.

Call him up and tell him it's over. And then move on and find yourself a guy that is more considerate.

 

First of all, whether he's cheating on you or not isn't what concerns me. It's the fact that he gets defensive, angry, and gets an attitude when you ask him about this. If he cared about you or cared about this relationship, he would NOT react in this manner. If he saw that this was concerning you, he'd try to talk to you about it and try to come to an understanding/solution.

 

You don't deserve this from him. Find yourself a guy that's more mature. Maybe it may be better to date someone your age or older; on the average, 33 year old guys tend to be more mature than 25 year olds. Secondly, his reaction is a big sign that he's lying to you. If he had nothing to hide, he would not be so quick to get defensive and upset, or deny even talking about it. He would try to talk about it to clear it up and offer an explanation or get to the bottom of the misunderstanding.

 

Leave him and find someone better. You already have enough reasons to. This guy seems like a rude, inconsiderate liar. And you don't trust him anymore; and once trust is compromised, it is really difficult to get things back to the way they used to be.