phoenix333 Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 Yesterday my girlfriend told me over the phone that she needs space. She didn't explain. I feel shocked. I didn't know what to say. She quickly told me that she couldn't talk more. She said, "I can't talk right now. Please trust me to contact you though" I can't exactly call or email her to ask her to explain, because then I wouldn't be giving her 'space'. I haven't heard from her at all today. Not even an email to explain. Nothing. Zip. Zero. Is this a break-up line? Does this sound fishy to you? Am I being played here? How much 'space' should I give her before contacting her? Is she testing me? Should I do no contact? (this was a new relationship, less than six months together, we were going slow because we are long distance from each other) Help!!! Link to post Share on other sites
BLF04 Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 -Yes, it is a break up line. -No, it doesnt sound fishy. she needs space. girls do this all the time. -Maybe, sometimes people really do need space. she probably still wants you on her chain. Its up to you if you want to play or not. -Give her all the space she needs. -I don't know what you mean by testing. -Yes, go NC. For the fact it will help you get over her and it will also test her to see how much she misses you. But don't wait around. Link to post Share on other sites
miriam Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 Sorry to hear that. Its a very odd way to break up with someone. You probably need to just leave her alone and give her space. Try to keep yourself busy....read, exercise, hang out with friends etc. etc. I think NC is the way to go. You need to show her what its like to not have you in her life. If she misses you and its meant to be hopefully she will come around. I think the key to NC is to use it as a process to move on and not as a means to win them back. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 1. Is this a break-up line? 2. Does this sound fishy to you? 3. Am I being played here? 4. How much 'space' should I give her before contacting her? 5. Is she testing me? 6. Should I do no contact? 1. No, but is generally the 'rest area' on the way to 'Breakupville'. 2. I don't know about it being fishy, but I do think she is hiding her true motivations for needing 'space' from you. 3. Odds are she met someone else, and needs that 'space' so that person can occupy it instead of you. 4. Don't contact her at all. If you do, she will resent you for it. 5. I doubt you are even a concern to her right now, much less the target of any 'test'. 6. Yes, in order to be able to move on. The best thing to do with "space" or a "break" is to go ahead and break up with the person handing you that line. "Space" and "Break" are indicators that your partner's emotional investment in you has dropped so low that they are having to struggle to decide whether or not they want to be with you anymore. May as well save you both the trouble of that painful process and just say "Adios!" Link to post Share on other sites
phoenix333 Posted July 14, 2005 Share Posted July 14, 2005 Thanks for your help to all of you. I think I will stick around here for a bit. I'm going to need all the support I can get to do no contact. I wish I knew what was going through her head right now. Link to post Share on other sites
bangdaddy Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 let me tell you from experiance n/c is horrible. you will be tested if you truly love her.Don't suspect shes with someone else, it just makes things worse. Give her all the space she needs. Thats really all i can say is be ready for some tough times but duck your head and move. Keep moving, you can think about her but don't let it bring you down. Link to post Share on other sites
francis Posted July 19, 2005 Share Posted July 19, 2005 give her space, give her space, give her what she wants, please, save your dignity, do what i wish i'd done 2 1/2 months ago...leave her alone for your own sanity...anyone who asks this is saying that they risk letting you go. you may love her, you may be dying inside, but the BEST thing you can do is to just keep busy, try try try putting her at the back of your mind for now and if she contacts you, its a bonus. don't under any circumstances, start begging and pleading. it's clear she has doubts, just leave her to it...get out, meet new people who are in your nearby town, if she comes back she will be doubly sure she wants to be with you...but then you must decide if you want her back Link to post Share on other sites
GOSSMAN Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 My ex bitch did this to me, and it sucks. I treated her so good for 2 years and she wanted to see if she could do better. Your better than your ex and you have to believe that. It's her loss my friend. Let her go out there and you just enjoy yourself and give it time, by the time your over her and keen on someone else then she might come back and you'll be more than happy just to play her then Link to post Share on other sites
greenhorn Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Send your GF to the Discovery shuttle and she will reach space where she will get lotta space. Link to post Share on other sites
GOSSMAN Posted July 21, 2005 Share Posted July 21, 2005 Originally posted by greenhorn Send your GF to the Discovery shuttle and she will reach space where she will get lotta space. great stuff! Link to post Share on other sites
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