drypuddle Posted December 5, 2016 Share Posted December 5, 2016 Man-child is a great word for it. At one point in the midst of it, I remember thinking to myself that I was the only person in the relationship with the strength to end it and move on. Him? He was off in his own little world, fantasizing aloud about how nice it would be to live with me, to introduce me to his parents, entirely ignoring the reality of our situation. He reminded me of a kid running out in the street after a ball, oblivious to the dangers of being hit by a car. In the end, that's what the ending felt like too, being hit by a mack truck. Omg you're like my spirit animal! You've described it so perfectly. So many times I had to tell him it hurt to talk about a future together while he's off dreaming about the house we will share, how much his family is going to love me, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 5, 2016 Share Posted December 5, 2016 Nearly all relationships are transactional. Very few people view others as a charity to donate to. Everyone wants something. Married people aren't immune. The MM's and MW's simply have different boundaries as to how they transact and gain what they want. Even those who may give the appearance of ownership, one example coming to mind is our past governor who apparently bore a child with his longtime affair partner who was also the family maid, both parties have free will and the ability to separate, even from employment as in that case. It's not an owner and a slave, even if money and power are involved as a control/enticement. It could feel like that, sure, and people range widely in feeling and perception. Women, the topic of this thread as 'others', have enormous power these days, so I tend to discount them as possessions in any transaction. They are free, independent, entities. More power to them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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