Christmas Guilt Trip From His Step Mom (Updated)

[kismetkismet]

Blurg.. I guess I just wasn’t expecting to have to do it this year.

 

My family is stupidly close and the kids feel like partly my kids. My sisters are my best friends, I was at the hospital when all the kids were born, I’ve looked after them, I’ve never missed any of their birthdays or Christmas, etc.etc. The kids have become the whole point of Christmas for me over the past 7 years. We lost a brother many years ago, and then a few years ago nearly lost my younger sister to cancer so we’ve always kind of banded together against everything else. My family was my primary focus and priority for many, many years. I guess it’s just an adjustment I wasn’t expecting to have to make just yet..

 

Thank you for your advice everyone, it’s really helped me to try to pull myself out of the situation and look at it objectively. I have to remind myself that my family situation isn’t usual or very reasonable at this stage of the game. It’s just tough. We both also have massive guilt complexes about keeping everyone happy, and probably need to work on that too

 

I think we’ve come up with a solution where both families will all be together at my families place for the 23rd, fiance and i will spend Christmas eve day with the kids, then head over to his parents’ place for Christmas Eve and Morning. Then all head back to ours for Christmas Day afternoon and dinner. I think his brother will like that anyway because we have a big bonfire and get out the sleds and snowboards and things. Still have to suss out details, but hopefully that works out.

[Popsicle]

Welcome to married life. You're going to have to alternate holidays with the families and they have to get used to it.