She never answared

[Foxbat111]

we liked each other for a long time and dated , but i was a Nice guy , needy and e.t.c so she dumped me and tried to friend zone me

 

but i answered , that i don't want any friendship and give me a text/call if you ever change your mind about me , but she never replied , just seen my message

 

so how to understand that? she is testing my strength or just she became angry and ... ?

 

One month passed (3 weeks and some more days) , and still no word from her ( and of course none from me )

 

is there still a chance that she will text me ?

[ExpatInItaly]

we liked each other for a long time and dated , but i was a Nice guy , needy and e.t.c so she dumped me and tried to friend zone me

 

but i answered , that i don't want any friendship and give me a text/call if you ever change your mind about me , but she never replied , just seen my message

 

so how to understand that? she is testing my strength or just she became angry and ... ?

 

One month passed (3 weeks and some more days) , and still no word from her ( and of course none from me )

 

is there still a chance that she will text me ?

 

What are you confused about, OP? It's clear what it means.

 

You told her to only reach out if she changes her mind. She hasn't reached out, which means she hasn't changed her mind.

 

Let this one go.

[Foxbat111]

What are you confused about, OP? It's clear what it means.

 

You told her to only reach out if she changes her mind. She hasn't reached out, which means she hasn't changed her mind.

 

Let this one go.

 

I know that She likes me , and She always liked me ( not only as a friend ) , I was just rejected for being too nice and needy ... after reject I still pursuaded her ( I know I was stupid , I even did'not know what i was doing) ,and then she started treating me very badly , so she lost me because of her fault and she knows about it very well.

also this was not a 1 month relationship , at first we were very good friends for some month and next we started dating , and I just cant believe that She's going to forget me such easily without any kind of an apologize or something like that ...

 

 

p.s. I love her ( Shes my first love ... ) and its very hard to let it go

 

Edited December 8, 2016 by Foxbat111

[basil67]

I know that She likes me , and She always liked me ( not only as a friend ) , I was just rejected for being too nice and needy ... after reject I still pursuaded her ( I know I was stupid , I even did'not know what i was doing) ,and then she started treating me very badly , so she lost me because of her fault and she knows about it very well.

also this was not a 1 month relationship , at first we were very good friends for some month and next we started dating , and I just cant believe that She's going to forget me such easily without any kind of an apologize or something like that ...

 

 

p.s. I love her ( Shes my first love ... ) and thats not easy to let it go such easily

 

 

I know what 'needy' means, but what are you trying to convey when you say that you were "too nice"? What kind of things were you doing which bothered her?

 

Yes, it was her choice to end the relationship. But she doesn't owe you an apology...especially if you were needy and whatever "too nice" means. If anything, you owe her an apology for chasing her after she'd made it clear she wanted the relationship to end. Your actions showed her that you don't respect her decisions of what's best for herself.

 

It's a fact of life that most of us experience many relationships before we find the one. You too, will end relationships in the future. And you will experience the feeling of wanting to simply move on. Until then, just do your best to move forward.

[elaine567]

I don't know where this "She dumped me because I was too nice" comes from, it seems to be almost universal amongst dumped guys.

The truth is if you were truly "nice" to her she wouldn't have dumped you. Nice things are only "nice" if the person you do them for thinks they are "nice", otherwise it is not being "nice".

[Foxbat111]

If anything, you owe her an apology for chasing her after she'd made it clear she wanted the relationship to end. Your actions showed her that you don't respect her decisions of what's best for herself.

 

 

but what if i do this?

 

i think that , this will make situation worse, how do you think?

[ExpatInItaly]

I know that She likes me , and She always liked me ( not only as a friend ) , I was just rejected for being too nice and needy ... after reject I still pursuaded her ( I know I was stupid , I even did'not know what i was doing) ,and then she started treating me very badly , so she lost me because of her fault and she knows about it very well.

also this was not a 1 month relationship , at first we were very good friends for some month and next we started dating , and I just cant believe that She's going to forget me such easily without any kind of an apologize or something like that ...

 

 

p.s. I love her ( Shes my first love ... ) and its very hard to let it go

 

 

I don't mean to be harsh, but I don't see how any of the above changes the current situation. She still hasn't contacted you. There is a reason, but I don't believe it's the one you're hoping for, unfortunately.

 

I find it curious that you are hoping for an apology. What do you feel she owes you an apology for?

 

The truth is that almost nobody stays with their first love forever. And yes, it's hard to let go of them. But you're doing yourself a disservice analyzing her behaviour (or lack thereof, in this case) and impeding your own healing.

[Foxbat111]

I don't mean to be harsh, but I don't see how any of the above changes the current situation. She still hasn't contacted you. There is a reason, but I don't believe it's the one you're hoping for, unfortunately.

 

I find it curious that you are hoping for an apology. What do you feel she owes you an apology for?

 

apology for what?

as i said , we were very good friends , i knew her friends , her family , she invited me to travel with his friends in Europe ( after dumping me)

we had a very good friendship , like a best friends , then we started dating , and i became needy and etc... so she dumped me , after that she started friendzoning me but i rejected that and continued making dates , yup i made a mistake and she lost all respect for me , so she started mistreating me , and i became a cold ( what is most funny that she was texting me first ... so if she lost interest and don't want anything from me why she is texting ? ) , always answered with short and etc. and one day she asked me a question : '' as i see you don't want to continue relationship'' and i answered : ''yup, give me a text/call if you ever change your mind about me'' , and she never replied on this message , just ''seen'' ...

 

apology for mistreating me not only like a guy which she was dating , but as a friend , I know I made a mistakes but I ve never mistreated her as She did to me, so this was a main reason why I did that ... and she knows it very well

 

p.s. sorry for my bad English

[CelticGibson]

You are demonstrating this "neediness" right now on this forum. Everyone has already told you that this girl isn't interested in continuing anything with you beyond friendship and that you need to move on and leave her alone. You have said your piece and said that if she changes her mind to contact you again.

 

When you say that, you should leave her alone and accept that she's NOT going to contact you again. If she wanted to, she would have done so in a heartbeat.

 

I am always amazed how being infatuated with someone seems to disconnect the language part of the brain that understands words. When she tells you something, take it at face value. When she doesn't respond, take that at face value too. Don't try to analyse it in order to find some hidden meaning that is not there because that only leads to a world of pain.

 

This is your first love and it won't be the last. Move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea and next time don't be so clingy.

[Been]

They always contact you eventually when you least expect it. Usually it's for thier own ego-see what your up to,they just go dumped,etc.

Disagree with the nice guy statement-I've seen ALOT of women run over men that treated them like gold. Almost like the man was too nice.

The more you hover by your phone waiting the weaker you look.

If she was to contact you right now I gurrantee you would rush in with both guns blazing-and that right thier shows someone who is needy. Remember once a woman figures out your stuck on them they will lose respect for you-it's almost like your saying to them that no matter how they treat you it's ok because you'll accept that to be with them. DONT be that guy.