flowergirl14 Posted January 9, 2017 Share Posted January 9, 2017 I think the people responding to you mean well. There are people here with years of experience. They have Seen It All. Sometimes it sounds like an attack especially to Newbies but it really is because they too have lived it. They have lived with the fall out from cheating. It never is over just because the affair has ended. Their are lasting effects of betrayal and I mean for years and years! Take a break if you need to it is a lot to deal. Just know that there are a lot of people here who can see straight through the bs. The end of the affair is just the beginning. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Heart broke Posted January 9, 2017 Author Share Posted January 9, 2017 Well, I've basically been called stupid, that I'm using my children, that I don't deserve my baby, that I'm going to get my children murdered, and just an all around weak individual. Yet, I haven't seen husband since he left, and while I'm privately thinking of reconciliation, I haven't said anything to him about it. I just came here for some advice, but I guess I'm just a horrible mother and person, so it probably won't work. Once again, thank you all for your help. I appreciate it. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted January 9, 2017 Share Posted January 9, 2017 I hope you don't leave. Just take a break from this place and when you come back, only focus on the positive advice that you find helpful, ignore and don't even bother replying to those who are rude and making you feel bad. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
waterwoman Posted January 9, 2017 Share Posted January 9, 2017 Yes, there does seem to be some victim-blaming here! You are a woman in an confusing, heart-breaking situation dealing with things she has never dealt with before, doing your best. People here getting angry with you because you aren't instantly doing what you are told does not help. Stay strong x 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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