Emo_kid Posted December 9, 2016 Share Posted December 9, 2016 I am 19 years old and so far of my life I had not been in a relationship, no guys actually ask me out. I find myself not being able to approach guys and share my interest that I actually EC them and the guys also show not interested in streaking conversation with me. I started to feel worried if i am able to get a boyfriend for the rest of my life and i am also jealous of my friends who had boyfriends Please share some advice Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted December 9, 2016 Share Posted December 9, 2016 You have plenty of time. Just focus on doing things that make you happy. If something is not making you happy, then change it up. You'll find the most compatible mates while partaking in activities that you enjoy. What interests do you have? Are there local groups or clubs revolving around those interests? If so, join up. Link to post Share on other sites
DarrenB Posted December 9, 2016 Share Posted December 9, 2016 The main analysis here is that you're only 19. That meaning that there's other things to worry about other than some random guy approaching you and wanting to start dating you/have a relationship with you. I don't think it's something to worry about, as of right now nor should you feel ridiculed by anyone for that matter, just because you are unable to find someone to date. Things may or may not in future, come naturally to you. Don't force it to become present. Focus on something, other than looking for a boyfriend. Perhaps start with befriending other people of the same sex, gradually move forward to socializing with other people and then progress from there. Do you study or have an occupation? if not, then I suggest starting an apprenticeship, or a new study. Occupy your time whilst you still have the youth. It's also a great way to meet new people and immerse yourself into new and exciting things. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Emo_kid Posted December 9, 2016 Author Share Posted December 9, 2016 I am not sure how to find a compatible mate, I am interested in gaming but i am more of an introvert. Link to post Share on other sites
Philosoraptor Posted December 9, 2016 Share Posted December 9, 2016 I am not sure how to find a compatible mate, I am interested in gaming but i am more of an introvert. Because there are no guys who enjoy gaming? There are countless groups that meetup to play games of all sort. The point of joining one of these groups is to go somewhere where you already have a shared interest with the people there. It will make conversations much easier. Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted December 9, 2016 Share Posted December 9, 2016 I am 19 years old and so far of my life I had not been in a relationship, no guys actually ask me out. I find myself not being able to approach guys and share my interest that I actually EC them and the guys also show not interested in streaking conversation with me. I started to feel worried if i am able to get a boyfriend for the rest of my life and i am also jealous of my friends who had boyfriends Please share some advice Thanks Sweetie, at 19 years old it's not important to have a boyfriend. It may seem important to YOU, of course, but there is so much more you can and should be focusing on. You are young and vibrant with a whole future ahead of you. You need to just focus on being YOU and being active, spending time with friends, finding activities you enjoy. Try anything and everything, explore, be free, be open-minded, be confident, etc. Get yourself set up for life as an independent, secure, confident woman who can stand on her own two feet. A woman doesn't need a man to make her happy. Having a man in your life should only add to and enhance the happiness you already have. Men are attracted to strong women who have a life of their own. No man wants to be a woman's everything and feel like he has to do everything for her. That's smothering and a lot of work for a man or anyone for that matter. Just get out there and have some fun, be you always and, while you're doing that, you may find that someone will come along when you least expect it. Waiting and fretting about when you will find someone is like watching a pot of water and waiting for it to boil. It's boring, a waste of time and frustrating. You're too young to be worrying about all this. Let it happen when it happens. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
mortensorchid Posted December 10, 2016 Share Posted December 10, 2016 Hon, at 19 you are not a mature woman yet. I've got some news for you, as you age things will become clearer and you, as a woman, will blossom and bloom into a sexy woman. You're not sexy just yet. If there was an answer as to how to find someone good worth your time and energy, I would tell you. I'm 41 and still where you are treading water. But I'm a different person than I was at 19 to be sure. Life will be hard, but keep moving forward. Link to post Share on other sites
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