Beautywithin Posted December 14, 2016 Share Posted December 14, 2016 (edited) So after 5 months of NC and having to see him everyday because we are work colleagues he finally spoke to me at our works Christmas party! he explained everything and i guess i got some closure from that. We both agreed our EA was wrong and would try to to say hi every now and again at work. My heart still hurts and i know for as long as i live i will never forget how he made me feel, this has been one of the worst years of my life, I became a person i hated, i let my guide down and let the wrong person in. after Xmas i will be looking for another job as the 5 months NC helped me a lot but as long as i have to see him everyday, will them feelings ever really go? Anyone who is in a EA or the early stages, END it now!!!.... there will never be a happy ending, the excitement you may be feeling now will be replaced with pain and heartache. I'm so ready to say goodbye to 2016 and ready to make better choices in 2017. Edited December 14, 2016 by Beautywithin 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Clavel Posted December 14, 2016 Share Posted December 14, 2016 i have a feeling that for you 2017 is going to be so much better than 2016. and i feel that way because you've done the work! you should be proud that you've done everything you can to set yourself up for success. good on you. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
freengreen Posted December 14, 2016 Share Posted December 14, 2016 Same boat. 6 weeks NC out of 8 month EA. Its terrible. I am disappointed in myself more than anything. Used up my real feelings and awful amount real cash on a plastic relationship. Well, what is done is done. I so wish to undo but cant. Left him for everyones good and want to erase its memory ( if at all possible). But one thing.. NEVER again. Happy you are working on it. Lets do it . 2 Link to post Share on other sites
BoaConstrictor Posted December 14, 2016 Share Posted December 14, 2016 Anyone who is in a EA or the early stages, END it now!!!.... there will never be a happy ending, the excitement you may be feeling now will be replaced with pain and heartache. Thanks. I needed this this morning to help me maintain NC. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted December 14, 2016 Share Posted December 14, 2016 I hope that 2017 turns out to be the best year you've ever had. Until then, All the best, Satu Link to post Share on other sites
FortyandForlorn Posted December 14, 2016 Share Posted December 14, 2016 I'm here too. EA with coworker, off and on for almost a year now. Currently, we have NC for about a week now (little steps, right?). I thought I could handle LC, but it's too hard for me. And for him as well - he needs to at least see me every other day, but my goal is too completely avoid him like a tax collector. And we're both terrible at confrontation, so I know there won't be any type of closure. It's crazy how out of control these relationships get. One thing it did do was expose a lot of cracks in my marriage. So there's that, I guess. So here's hoping 2017 will be a successful year! I'm definitely not out of the woods yet, but at least I'm headed in the right direction. Link to post Share on other sites
Forever broken Posted December 15, 2016 Share Posted December 15, 2016 So after 5 months of NC and having to see him everyday because we are work colleagues he finally spoke to me at our works Christmas party! he explained everything and i guess i got some closure from that. We both agreed our EA was wrong and would try to to say hi every now and again at work. My heart still hurts and i know for as long as i live i will never forget how he made me feel, this has been one of the worst years of my life, I became a person i hated, i let my guide down and let the wrong person in. after Xmas i will be looking for another job as the 5 months NC helped me a lot but as long as i have to see him everyday, will them feelings ever really go? Anyone who is in a EA or the early stages, END it now!!!.... there will never be a happy ending, the excitement you may be feeling now will be replaced with pain and heartache. I'm so ready to say goodbye to 2016 and ready to make better choices in 2017. Thanks for your post. I also got my closure today. After 80 hours a week work I get so cranky. As I sat at the cafe drinking coffee I see my ex married man and a new Lady. She looked much younger and prettier but she had the same look as I did when I was with him. I was sad and happy at the same time. Sad because I fell for his lies and got heartbroken while he moved to another person and happy because I got to see that was his behavior. I hope people learn from my mistake. Link to post Share on other sites
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