Marc878 Posted December 15, 2016 Share Posted December 15, 2016 Not responding to any more comments on here. Was a mistake posting. Running from the truth won't help you much. Better wake up Link to post Share on other sites
40somethingGuy Posted December 15, 2016 Share Posted December 15, 2016 (edited) Hi I'm new to this forum. My sex drive has come back with a vengeance and have found myself wanting to do things I've never wanted to do ever and explore my sexuality, with everyone but my husband... maybe this is for my benefit but can you expand on this? In your mind, why do you not want to share this exciting desire with your husband? What kinds of feelings go into this? Thanks. Edited December 15, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Fix quote and remove bolding 1 Link to post Share on other sites
CommittedToThis Posted December 15, 2016 Share Posted December 15, 2016 Please I'm not looking to be criticised or judgment, just some advice. I am an intelligent person who knows what I'm doing (most of the time!). Hi Aurorra79, I realize you've split for the hills already but I wanted to offer my advice, as you asked. In my opinion you are not all that intelligent to find yourself falling for a MM while you are married and raising a family. I mean, seriously, I'm not seeing intelligence at work here, more like impulsiveness and immaturity. My advice is to stop seeing WonderBoy (OM), tell your loving and faithful H everything, and be prepared for about 5 years of your H driving you insane with questions until he finally realizes what you really are -- a cheater -- and leaves you, taking the kids with him. Then you can bang anyone you want without all the guilt. You sound like a cake-eater to me, a hypocrite, a "do as I say, not as I do" kind of person. The kind of person who perhaps, intelligence levels notwithstanding, isn't relationship material because they can't be trusted. To quote Chrissy Hynde: "You are that." Put your noggin to use and do the right thing. All the best to you. Link to post Share on other sites
Bittersweetie Posted December 15, 2016 Share Posted December 15, 2016 I was a wayward wife myself. I was convinced my relationship with xOM was special. I was convinced that it was okay to do what I was doing, that no one would get hurt. I deserved a little happiness, didn't I? That was seven years ago. And my one question for you is: Is what you are doing with OM (in your own home), worth losing everything? I almost lost everything. My husband, my integrity, my self-esteem. My H gave me a second chance. I worked hard on my issues and rebuilding my personal integrity. It was a long and painful road. If I could go back I would change my choices in a second. But unfortunately I cannot. I know PPs are saying things that you don't want to hear. I didn't want to hear stuff like that either. How could they, people who don't know us, truly understand? But please listen and read. Many PP (on both your threads) have valid feedback. Or when you are ready to read, come back. My advice is to stop. There are so many red flags with this man that its unbelievable. I know you are addicted, but please, please step off. If not for you, for your children. Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
William Posted December 15, 2016 Share Posted December 15, 2016 Folks, it appears Robert did some cleanup here and, due to a concurrent running thread on the same topic, he closed this one. I'll add the link to the other thread below: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/other-man-woman/606061-both-married-having-affair As always, please remember to post with our guidelines in mind. It's greatly appreciated! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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