ly399 Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 I know he's bad for me in the long run. Yet he's so sweet and i love him so much. Breaking up with him was hardest thing, I miss him constantly and feel miserable without him. But I know it's the right thing in the long run. He's pretty immature and emotionally demanding. When we were together, though we were happy, I was running dry taking care of him all the time. I want time and space to do my own things, and he's very needy. He told me he wants to get back at a heart beat if I ever change my mind. How to move on if I still love him deeply?
DarrenB Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 He told me he wants to get back at a heart beat if I ever change my mind. How to move on if I still love him deeply? With time and correct understanding of why it is something you must leave and not return to. I'm all for love, loving your partner and giving them the satisfaction you truly believe they deserve, but I say it so often... it cannot be unrequited and one sided. If he can acknowledge why you want time and a break from him, he will willingly take that time in order to re-evaluate himself and perhaps develop more into someone whom you feel you could love properly and feel that love back in return. Do not run back to someone just because you love them. Do not let anyone get that control over you.
Sweetfish Posted December 18, 2016 Posted December 18, 2016 I know he's bad for me in the long run. Yet he's so sweet and i love him so much. Breaking up with him was hardest thing, I miss him constantly and feel miserable without him. But I know it's the right thing in the long run. He's pretty immature and emotionally demanding. When we were together, though we were happy, I was running dry taking care of him all the time. I want time and space to do my own things, and he's very needy. He told me he wants to get back at a heart beat if I ever change my mind. How to move on if I still love him deeply? how long was the breakup
jorgeg3d Posted December 21, 2016 Posted December 21, 2016 (edited) See, I feel if you truly love someone, then you must figure out what the problems are and what needs to get done in order to continue the relationship. Make a list of your deal breakers, make a list of your pro's and cons about him. Talk to him if you want, but to be fair he should do the same about you, because it takes 2 to tango. If he can't acknowledge his part of the problem, isn't willing to work it out, or is in denial, then you let go. I feel people are too eager to quit when things don't seem right or "perfect" in a relationship. No relationship is perfect, you will always find something you don't like about someone regardless of how long you've been together or how much or little you love them. As long as both parties are willing to try and love each other equally, its possible to make it work. That's my 2 cents. Edited December 21, 2016 by jorgeg3d
Hoosfoos Posted December 22, 2016 Posted December 22, 2016 How to move on if I still love him deeply? If you loved him deeply you wouldn't have left. 3
Aesc Posted December 25, 2016 Posted December 25, 2016 If you loved him deeply you wouldn't have left. Does make sense.
guest572 Posted December 26, 2016 Posted December 26, 2016 I know he's bad for me in the long run. Yet he's so sweet and i love him so much. Breaking up with him was hardest thing, I miss him constantly and feel miserable without him. But I know it's the right thing in the long run. He's pretty immature and emotionally demanding. When we were together, though we were happy, I was running dry taking care of him all the time. I want time and space to do my own things, and he's very needy. He told me he wants to get back at a heart beat if I ever change my mind. How to move on if I still love him deeply? I felt the same. I love my ex and want to spend a lifetime with him, but he was hurting me so much and I knew that breaking up was the only option. It was very difficult. Not just the breakup, but the conflicting emotions that followed. I am talking months and perhaps years, but part of this is to do with anger, frustration and sadness over what he put me through during the relationship. I felt that it was something that could be salvaged, but he just wouldn't budge or admit wrong doings. Despite what others have said, love is not always enough. Sometimes relationships just cannot work, and it doesn't mean there is no love. You knew it was the right thing to do, and obviously gave it a lot of thought. The issues seem to be about his personality which would be unfair to ask of him to change. You still love and miss him, but know in your heart that it can't work. It is very difficult but you will recover in time and get past this. Sorry that I don't have any further advice on how exactly.. just have to wait it out for time to do it's thing.. and other tips on getting through a breakup such as no contact, pursuing your hobbies, staying healthy and socialising with friends and family.
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