ladybird Posted July 16, 2005 Share Posted July 16, 2005 I know this is one of those questions but.... Is there an average time after a break up, if the dumper were to reconsider their decision, that they make contact? Me and my ex were together for 5 years and lived together for 4.5 years. he left suddenly 5 months ago. He said that we were best friends and really wants me in his life but I felt that so soon after, that was not possible and we had a kind of agreement that we wouldn't see each other until I was ready. We haven't had any contact for 4 months now apart from a couple of emails regarding financial arrangements with the flat we shared. I am not under any illusion that there is a big chance of reconciliation as I think that despite our agreement that I would make the first contact when I was emotionally ready, if he had second thoughts he would contact me, wouldn't he? But then again...because I haven't contacted him for 4 months, could he think that I am over him and wouldn't want him back? aaaarrrgggghhh!.....basically, my question is will he contact me if he has second thoughts or should I contact him if I am to have any chance at all? sorry if this sounds confused, but, hell, I am confused - my head is a mess with all these 'what ifs' help! Link to post Share on other sites
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 16, 2005 Share Posted July 16, 2005 Originally posted by ladybird basically, my question is will he contact me if he has second thoughts or should I contact him if I am to have any chance at all? You need to follow your heart this one time .. Sometimes people don't make that first contact because of fear of rejection or pride. If you do contact him be ready to accept the reality that he might not bite and then you need to move on... Not obsess over why ? or should you give it another week? or should I send him a birthday card ? If the results aren't what you expect just move on Link to post Share on other sites
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