Stop teasing me Posted July 16, 2005 Share Posted July 16, 2005 I am a member here but a little embarrassed to share my story. My H and I have been M for 13 years. He had an A a few years ago. B4 the A he would always initiate the sex. I hardly ever did. A lot of the times I would turn him down because I was exhausted or just not in the mood. My self-esteem was low and I didn't feel good about seeing me naked. Plus he was always on my a$$ about loosing more weight. I wasn't obesed, but did need to loose about 30lbs so I was overweight. I think a lot of his reason for the A was because he wasn't getting enough at home (we had sex about once every week or two but I never got into to). I lost 30 lbs during the A/separation. Every time H would see me he would comment on how good I looked. We got back together but now things have changed. I don't know if I have reached my sexual peak but I want sex a lot and H is just a tease! He'll touch me and when I initiate wanting to go all the way he'll say "Not now, later." When later comes, he falls asleep in the stupid chair and I go to bed alone. When I do get him awake the only thing he wants to do is climb in bed and go back to sleep. A lot of times he will whisper to me "I want to f@ck you (or make love, or have sex)" but when I say ok, he backs down and says the same thing, "not now, later." Yest I met him at work to go shopping. I wore a new shirt that he thought I looked good in. He kept commenting on how nice my boobs looked in it, lol. While we were shopping he whispered "I want to have sex." Of course, when we got home, no lovin for me, again. This morning he woke up early and he played w/ me for a little bit but then left the bedroom and didn't finish! UGH! I am tired of him teasing. I have told him how I felt about his teasing but I get no where. He is so horney all the time and he touches me whenever he gets the chance but when it comes to sex, I am lucky if I get it twice a week. I could have it every day if I had my choice. Link to post Share on other sites
JadeStar Posted July 16, 2005 Share Posted July 16, 2005 He needs to grow and and stop the childish games! Jade Link to post Share on other sites
Stop teasing me Posted July 16, 2005 Share Posted July 16, 2005 Originally posted by JadeStar He needs to grow and and stop the childish games! Jade I don't know if it's a game for him. He likes to grab a feel whenever he walks near me. The times I initiate sex he just lays there. When I stop because he isn't getting aroused he tells me to keep doing it, that it feels good. It bothers me that I can give him a hand job and he is a limp noodle. I don't like giving hand jobs/BJ's to a limp d!ck. A lot of times the only way he gets hard is when he touches me back. I gave up initiating sex w/ him b/c he is never in the mood when I do and I hate being rejected so I don't put myself in that situation. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted July 17, 2005 Share Posted July 17, 2005 I don't like giving hand jobs/BJ's to a limp d!ck. Amen to that! Please read The Sex-Starved Marriage by Michele Weiner-Davis. It is practical and helpful for both partners. BTW, I am not sure that your H is a "tease". I would recommend to stop putting that unhelpful label on him. Better to say, "I have not been getting the satisfaction from our physical r/s that I would like to." I am wondering if your H may have a problem with erectile dysfunction. That would explain the spoken desire, but lack of actual action. A doctor and/or sexual therapist could help. Link to post Share on other sites
Darios Posted July 17, 2005 Share Posted July 17, 2005 It appreciated friend, the refusal is a type of agresion, he has taken it as a language, ahy something that him does not like of you and he seeks to express it to traves of the refusal, preguntele that thing he did not count you, therefore aqui there is a problem of communication, there is algun grudge kept. Link to post Share on other sites
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