Going thru divorce he left end of august first christmas alone

[Prettywoman82399]

Hey everyone going thru a divorce i kicked him out august 25th 2016 for cheating on me with his co worker.. it's my first christmas without him .. I do have a 7 year old son with him..I was doing good until he took my son to dinner n a movie with this girl and christmas will just be me n my son open ing santas presents then he will go to his Father's at 9am.. n I will be alone until 4pm when I get him back.. I haven't been depressed until a couple days ago.. im extremely sad.. I was hoping the grieving was gone n thought it was over but it came rush ing back in with a huge force.. I don't know how to handle this.. im in a new relationship myself now.. n he makes me very happy.. but im conflicted by my emotions.. how can i be happy with someone else but still depressed over my ex.. no im not in love with my ex.. it was well on it's way to ending.. but I still thought we could make it work.. please help all these emotional are making me really confused.. thank u

[Satu]

Just respect and accept whatever feelings come up.

 

If you simply allow them to be what they are, you will continue to make progress.

 

Use those hours when you will be alone, to give thanks for what you have.

 

Take care.

[Mr. Lucky]

but im conflicted by my emotions.. how can i be happy with someone else but still depressed over my ex.. no im not in love with my ex.. it was well on it's way to ending.. but I still thought we could make it work..

 

Yes, you are conflicted, "ending" and "making it work" are opposing concepts. But honestly, it's to be expected as it's like a phantom limb - even someone who's lost an arm still occasionally has feelings in their fingers.

 

I can tell you from experience, time is your friend in this regard. As you develop a new normal and get settled in life moving forward, these feelings will recede. You'll always be tied through your son, but you'll eventually feel as though the marriage to him happened in another life. Stay busy and count your blessings...

 

Mr. Lucky