unrequited love that doesnt let me move forward

[soyx]

hello everyone thank´s for stopping by and here is my story:

 

i meet this girl at school some time ago and we were friends, actually really good friends and one day 3 years ago we were doing all sort of things together; we went to the movie teather, we study, often we had lunch, the point is we were almost always together, i didn´t think of her in a romantic way until one day she told me she was dating a guy and i was actually happy for her, until later that evennning. that was a long week for me that i couldn´t cope my feelings and had this weird atmosphere with her and had a fight, a silly one i recall.

 

after some time she stopped talking to me and after two weeks she´s found a boyfriend, not the one she was dating before, i was sad but i wanted stay as a friend of her so one day we made peace and thing went good, i stopped seeing her that much for about 6 months, then when she break up with this guy she started seeking me again, i was happy in a way but it didn´t last and after 5 months she found another guy, i remember telling her one time that i had feelings for her and she said that she needed only a friend that time.

 

at last she started dating this new guy and everytime she had problems with him she came to me and i innocently fall again for her hoping for her, every time was the same she jilt me dozen of times for this guy , this was like a year and she did always told me that she really liked me, we made plans for the future but every time he came in she left me for second...... last time that she broke up for him we had a really good time together and after i told her that i lover her for second time she told me to give her time to reply....... i was really happy and with school almost over i had more time to be with her, but know when id asked her out something alway´s showed up or she invited other friend´s saying thing´s like "it is okay that a friend come" or things like that, we were not able to be alone. the last time we went out we were drinking and she was dancing with a common friend and i was jealous so i took her to other place and tell her again that i loved her, her reply was that i should bust out, that she only wanted me as a friend and that i should quit my moves, still she was with this friend and we argued, that night my buddy took her home and tolde that they kissed, i was hertbroken before but after that i was destroyed, so in a way to stop seeing her i moved out seeking a work opportunity, i leaved without be able to talk about that night and saying a proper goodbye and ever since she message´s me things like "i really missed you" how are things for you" i dont want to stop seeing you" and it´s break me every time......

 

 

i don´t know how to deal with this and my colsest friend agree with me that she was no good for me, still every time i feel that im moving on she appaears in my life in some way and it´s hard to stop thinking of her..... my desire for her......

 

sorry for the long text but it does help me write this off and i hope some advice thank for reading

[Miss Clavel]

love does not hurt. love doesn't play.

 

she doesn't have the feelings for you that you want. she left with another man and kissed him, knowing full well how you felt.

 

which means, that she is not only no good but no good for you.

 

i would go NC for my own sanity and you should to.

 

if you keep on with this you will be lowering yourself and if you think you feel bad now, wait until you're low enough that she kicks in your teeth.

 

sorry. there it is. get out now.

[preraph]

You have to force yourself to refocus. No end to waiting for a relationship to "resolve" when one party isn't as invested as you. You will just waste precious time. Use self-discipline, get social, stay busy, do something fun every week, and refocus. Sorry it went that way. We've all been there. Good luck.

[Satu]

You just have to accept that it didn't work out, won't work out, and can't work out.

 

Cry your tears and find a way forward without her.

 

 

"Evermore weeping for your cousin’s death?

What, wilt thou wash him from his grave with tears?

An if thou couldst, thou couldst not make him live.

Therefore, have done. Some grief shows much of love,

But much of grief shows still some want of wit."

 

 

- William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet.

 

 

Take care.

[carnelian]

As a victim of unrequited love myself, I know that it is very very hard to stop obsessing sometimes. A part of you does not want to give her up, even if she is only a memory, or especially if she is only that to you now.

Instead concentrate on possible flaws of hers...things you do not like about her, that would have made a rel'ship w/ her unpleasant or short. Don't imagine her idyllic or perfect and just right for you...

 

 

 

There is nothing you can say and nothing you can do when you love someone and they do not love you.

 

 

Dickie Betts, from a song. Greatest guitarist ever IMO