andanotherthing Posted July 17, 2005 Share Posted July 17, 2005 My husband is always making negative comments about my body ie wobbles, stretch marks, sagging etc. Im 33, have had 4 babies so everythings not as it was at 18 obviously but I try to take good care of myself and until recently felt pretty good about myself. This was until I found out that he is frequently masterbating to porn. Of course , this is fine if both partners agree to it, but I dont like it, I felt it was the reason he has become increasingly critical of my body and he Actually he admits that the more porn he uses the more he has compared me to it and felt dissatisfied with me physically. He says, yeah I love you but how can you possibly live up to these women who are so beautiful? I know a lot of people out there say there is no problem with porn and maybe this is true in a relationship where the man does not feel compeelled to rate and compare his wife to 20 yr old air brushed bodies but this is not the case for us. He has ceased using it but I am deeply shamed to be naked infront of him because of the way he has critique me. This is ironic as I recieve attention from other men and do not think I would be self conscious if I developed a relationship with another man??? My husband says he Im not the type of woman he would check out if he didnt know me. (he also does this frequently when we are out in public) Anyway any advice as to how I can deal with feelings or should I just pack up the house , kids and cut my losses an maybe make a better future with a man who would look twice and accept that a truely beautiful woman is one who is not air brushed and maybe even has some wobbly bits????? Link to post Share on other sites
shygurl Posted July 17, 2005 Share Posted July 17, 2005 Your husband is a cruel, insensitive, thoughtless jerk. I wonder how HIS body would look if he'd given birth to 4 children? Does he not consider that YOUR BODY is the very body that carried his children? For him to tell you that you're not the kind of woman he'd check out in public - all I can say is that I'm so totally sorry that you have to share your life with such a heartless b@stard. Would you be open to marriage counselling? Would he? Do you want to save this? If nothing else, I'd encourage you to attend counselling on your own - to help you deal with the hurt you're understandable feeling. I don't even know what to really say. He doesn't deserve you or his children. Link to post Share on other sites
Darios Posted July 17, 2005 Share Posted July 17, 2005 It appreciated lady, your you have permitted that your husband has he attack you, if him there were person under arrest in the first one agresion he would not have all the field to abuse you, ponte strong and dile that do not permit that he offend you, he insult, because these receiving a lot of abuse psicologico, nobody deserves to be mistreated in this way neither of ningun way, quierete a little prettier, appreciate you for which are, for any consultation you write me a message to you take care of a lot, with appreciation and affection Link to post Share on other sites
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