Wife cheated, I'm divorcing.

[VeganButEatMyMeat]

I'm going through this right now.

 

My friend I suggest you start your own thread. You get a lot more exposure and hopefully some good advice.

 

If I was you, I would accept the fact that I am starting over. I don't know what decisions were made which led you to lose your job. I don't know what's happening with your daughter.

 

Whatever you're going through try to focus on the future and do not dwell on the past (except to not repeat past mistakes). Dwelling over the past is a dangerous thing because you cannot change the past, you can only impact the future. It's not going to be easy but you need to do it.

 

You're not the only man that had their wife leave them for another man (I'm in that club). There are millions of men out there in our situation. Yes she is living the good life right now with her new man, but the way I looked at it and the way you should look at it is... if I fold up like a lawn chair or crawl under a rock... she wins. I know it's not about winning and losing but I'm competitive by nature. No matter how good she did I wanted to do better than her. Just a couple pieces of the puzzle moved in the perfect way for me to have my son (totally out of my control, nothing you can control in your situation).

 

Again please start a thread and I REALLY hope it gets better for you man, I was in your boat, don't let that thing sink! You got this!

[VeganButEatMyMeat]

How do you like Tucson?

 

It's horrible ... sunny all the time, 80 degrees/no humidity, my house is better than expected, son is doing good (not great) in daycare, don't have to drive 2 hours in busy Washington D.C. traffic to get to a Zoo (took my son the 2nd day I was here, it's only 15 mins away!), my son loves our house. The yard has no grass but is filled with small rocks instead.. he thinks it's a ginormous sand box and will play out there all day.

 

My work gave me 2 weeks of vacation to get settled in. I know you guys told me I shouldn't but I already met a girl, a complete smokeshow! We own our own houses 30mins apart, she has 2 kids, so we are forced to take it slow. It's nice having female attention but MY SON WILL ALWAYS COME FIRST. Thank you for asking!