SeriousAsparagus Posted December 25, 2016 Share Posted December 25, 2016 I am a little on the fence about my ex. It's been about 2 or 3 years ago since my relationship with my ex. Two weeks ago he texted me asking if I would like to have dinner with him. So I said sure, and we met up on sunday, had dinner and coffee. He paid for everything even though I offered to split. A little bit after we left, he texted me that it was nice seeing me today. So at that point in time I was confused whether it was a date or just friends. Day after, I texted him asking if he would like to go to a gallery with me on Christmas eve... I thought he would say no if he wanted to keep some boundaries. But he agreed. We met in the afternoon, went around, had dinner, watched a movie, and drank a little together, and again paid for everything. We left around 11:30PM. And I texted him I really enjoyed our date. I've been a bit confused because I'm not sure if he still has feelings. We don't text each other unless its to make plans, he doesn't try to touch me... I'm not sure what this is all leading towards. Does anyone have some advice? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Clavel Posted December 25, 2016 Share Posted December 25, 2016 what do you two talk about? is he married? how did it end? why did it end? why do you think he doesn't touch you, assuming he's not married or in another relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
Author SeriousAsparagus Posted December 25, 2016 Author Share Posted December 25, 2016 what do you two talk about? is he married? how did it end? why did it end? why do you think he doesn't touch you, assuming he's not married or in another relationship? We mostly talk about life when we got together. Our jobs, our goals, things we think about. We very rarely mention the past. We were not married. Just dating. we dated for a little over a year and he ended it with me when we went long distance, about 4 months in. I think he met another girl in an internship, and dated her for about 2 years (not at the same time). Well when we first met, he wasn't that forward either. When I first met him, I was the one that ended up asking him about his feelings towards me. Link to post Share on other sites
Rya Posted December 30, 2016 Share Posted December 30, 2016 Do you still have feelings for him? Link to post Share on other sites
Been Posted December 31, 2016 Share Posted December 31, 2016 You know how I deal with an ex?They don't exist. They are an ex for a reason. You revisit the past it usually ends the same or WORSE. I don't want to chill with them-their usually isn't a point. And if their is its because THEY usually want something. Link to post Share on other sites
MeadowFlower Posted January 6, 2017 Share Posted January 6, 2017 You know how I deal with an ex?They don't exist. They are an ex for a reason. You revisit the past it usually ends the same or WORSE. I don't want to chill with them-their usually isn't a point. And if their is its because THEY usually want something. That isn't a one shoe fits all. Link to post Share on other sites
MeadowFlower Posted January 6, 2017 Share Posted January 6, 2017 (edited) I am a little on the fence about my ex. It's been about 2 or 3 years ago since my relationship with my ex. Two weeks ago he texted me asking if I would like to have dinner with him. So I said sure, and we met up on sunday, had dinner and coffee. He paid for everything even though I offered to split. A little bit after we left, he texted me that it was nice seeing me today. So at that point in time I was confused whether it was a date or just friends. Day after, I texted him asking if he would like to go to a gallery with me on Christmas eve... I thought he would say no if he wanted to keep some boundaries. But he agreed. We met in the afternoon, went around, had dinner, watched a movie, and drank a little together, and again paid for everything. We left around 11:30PM. And I texted him I really enjoyed our date. I've been a bit confused because I'm not sure if he still has feelings. We don't text each other unless its to make plans, he doesn't try to touch me... I'm not sure what this is all leading towards. Does anyone have some advice? Just for my own interest, did he contact you out of the blue? Or had you been in contact during the time you were apart? My advice is, if you want to be with this person or think you could potentially be with this person, then go for it! But do be cautious, take things slow, and don't get attached or too emotionally involved until you are sure of his intentions and that they meet your approval. Another thing, let him initiate. Edited January 6, 2017 by MeadowFlower Link to post Share on other sites
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