leafguy Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 Hey everyone, Wondering if someone can give me some clarity on a bit of a situation. It`s been almost a year since my breakup with my most recent ex. I`ve dated a couple girls the past 8 months, but nothing long term as it just didn`t have to spark. I had kept contact on and off with said ex about once every few weeks just to idle chit chat and keep up in each other`s lives. About the beginning of December, the contact started escalating, and the last two weeks, it has been pretty much non stop. We met up for coffee this week for about 2 hours and chatted about life and enjoyed the company. It went well. We talked about dating lives all year and both admitted to being pretty dry from that stand point. As of tomorrow, I am going over to her place to spend an hour or so with the family (sister is in from overseas with a new baby) and wants me to meet the newborn. Disclaimer, got along really well with the family, so I don`t feel it will be awkward and her sister is genuinely excited to see me as we kept in contact most of the year every month or so. I know on my end I would like to take things slow and see if she is indeed interested again. I can`t see any reason why she isn`t at least a bit interested when she has invited me over to see the family again. Anyone else provide thoughts? Much appreciated in advance. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
benpom Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 Hey everyone, Wondering if someone can give me some clarity on a bit of a situation. It`s been almost a year since my breakup with my most recent ex. I`ve dated a couple girls the past 8 months, but nothing long term as it just didn`t have to spark. I had kept contact on and off with said ex about once every few weeks just to idle chit chat and keep up in each other`s lives. About the beginning of December, the contact started escalating, and the last two weeks, it has been pretty much non stop. We met up for coffee this week for about 2 hours and chatted about life and enjoyed the company. It went well. We talked about dating lives all year and both admitted to being pretty dry from that stand point. As of tomorrow, I am going over to her place to spend an hour or so with the family (sister is in from overseas with a new baby) and wants me to meet the newborn. Disclaimer, got along really well with the family, so I don`t feel it will be awkward and her sister is genuinely excited to see me as we kept in contact most of the year every month or so. I know on my end I would like to take things slow and see if she is indeed interested again. I can`t see any reason why she isn`t at least a bit interested when she has invited me over to see the family again. Anyone else provide thoughts? Much appreciated in advance. What's the reason for breakup? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author leafguy Posted December 26, 2016 Author Share Posted December 26, 2016 She got overwhelmed with starting her career in another city having to commute (was a teacher working an hour away every day and is now working local). Also had a lot of other commitments and the relationship was only a couple months in. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BAcK Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 The reason for the break up might eventually influence whether you might get together again or not. It seens that you both ended it on good terms and kept in touch all along. Play it cool and do not rush anything. Keep 1 Link to post Share on other sites
benpom Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 She got overwhelmed with starting her career in another city having to commute (was a teacher working an hour away every day and is now working local). Also had a lot of other commitments and the relationship was only a couple months in. In that case, I think you guys have a good chance of getting back together if that's what you want. I know I definitely would not invite a guy to see my family or close friends unless I am interested in having a relationship with this guy. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author leafguy Posted December 26, 2016 Author Share Posted December 26, 2016 Yeah I thought it was a good sign, but it is also because everyone got along so well too. I mean ultimately I think I would like another shot, but I don't want to jump headlong like we did last time. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 Just concentrate on having enjoyable interactions in the present. That present moment contains the seed of every other moment. Take care. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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