MineEyes11 Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 Single guy here wondering something about married life... Honestly, how often do married people have sex? I know kids change things and life gets busy and all that. But on average how often do you have sex when life isn't too hectic or stressful? All the married people I have seen who have been together more than a few years seem sexless to me. I can't imagine any of them having sex with each other...there's just nothing sexual about them. And if these people are actually doing it... I imagine it being pretty boring and ordinary sex. Just kinda sad... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 I think they must be having sex quite frequently, given the number of babies they produce. I haven't seen any unusual activity in the cabbage patch... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 I imagine it being pretty boring and ordinary sex. Just kinda sad... Well, as a happily married man for 30+ years and still enjoying a healthy sex life, I could say the same thing about the culture of casual hook-ups I see today. How do you have meaningful sex with someone you have no emotional connection with? I'd guess like most things, it's in the eye of the beholder. Like beauty, boring is as boring does... Mr. Lucky 6 Link to post Share on other sites
T-16bullseyeWompRat Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 I would say more so then someone not in a relationship. Not exciting eh? Clearly someone who has never tried to sneek in a quicky while the kids are in the next room doing homework or whatever. Pretty damn exciting to me anyway 2 Link to post Share on other sites
spanz1 Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 yeah, all the time. In fact, when you are old and gray, no better way to have sex than with your partner of many years. You see people on here bitching about no sex because THEY let it happen. Either they married someone without having sex before, and THEN find they are sexually incompatible. Or they have a kid, and put up with some B.S. about her not being able to have sex "for a while", and then are suprised 2 years later that they are still not having sex. Just do not put up with a sexless marriage. if it starts, fix it. If you cant fix it, throw your lazy partner out on their ass. just follow this simple rule: If you are married, and go more than a week without having sex, then tehre is something SERIOUSLY WRONG that needs to be fixed IMMEDIATELY. Link to post Share on other sites
What-2-Do Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 My wife and I used to have sex 3 times a week and things were awesome. Getting comfortable with someone you tend to do more and experiment more. That all changed about 2 years ago and now things suck. Before I got married a friend of mine told me to put a penny in a jar every time you get a BJ on your honeymoon. When you return take a penny out every time you get one and you'll never empty the jar. I laughed at this but in my case it was 1000% true. Link to post Share on other sites
oldshirt Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 Single guy here wondering something about married life... Honestly, how often do married people have sex? I know kids change things and life gets busy and all that. But on average how often do you have sex when life isn't too hectic or stressful? All the married people I have seen who have been together more than a few years seem sexless to me. I can't imagine any of them having sex with each other...there's just nothing sexual about them. And if these people are actually doing it... I imagine it being pretty boring and ordinary sex. Just kinda sad... Didn't your mom ever teach you not to judge a book by it's cover. I you were to run into me in the grocery store or getting gas at Quick Trip, you would never think I've had sex in the last 15 years. But the truth is we have been married for 21 years, 2 kids in jr high, bills, mortgages, car payments, some recent health issues etc etc and we still average every week or so....and we spent quite a few years in the swinging lifestyle and have been to clubs all over the country and to conventions and numerous parties and have had numerous 3somes, 4somes, moresomes and in orgy rooms of a number of clubs. Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 It varies a lot by couple. Seeing all the posts about sexless marriages can't be very encouraging - and it is a real problem for many couples. My first marriage was terrible in the sex department, and that was one reason I ended it. From what I can tell and have seen from statistics, less than a third of marriages are happy overall. Money, kids, and sex are the biggest problem areas - not necessarily in that order. Second marriage - with kids in or entering teen years - sex was (and still is) off the charts. We averaged twice a day in the first 6 or 7 years; in the last 10 years, it has slowly declined to 5 to 8 times a week. I think we may be in the three standard deviation range on the sexual Bell curve, though and not only for sex. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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