Late Nights Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 After my last post i finally accepted what has happen and now moving foward with my own healing process slowly. My last text from her was in the morning on Friday Dec 23. In short her text was: "she's feeling stressed out and its best we don't talk for a few weeks." From that text i just finally initiated the NC to respect her wishes. Before we would text now n then but it of course i can stress her out. Ofcourse on Christmas day i wanted to text her to wish her and her daughter a Merry Christmas. Of course she never texted me on that day but later on that night i had the text written out but i deleted it and decided not to send it. Did i do the right thing? I know if i cared about her then i need to respect what she wants. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Logo Posted December 26, 2016 Share Posted December 26, 2016 No contact is no contact. If she broke up because she feels stressed, it's time to move on and find someone who doesn't feel that a relationship is a burden. Relationships are supposed to be a source of support, comfort and a safe haven. If she needs space, then leave her alone. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
loveiswar101 Posted December 27, 2016 Share Posted December 27, 2016 To right you did the right thing. Don't do what I did and drag it all out for months and months. All will say NC is for you...get busy, gym, hobbies, movies etc what ever you need to do to look after you and take your mind of her and move on. More time NC the easier it gets....if you want it to be! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Late Nights Posted December 27, 2016 Author Share Posted December 27, 2016 I know. Man it sucks and i know time will heal everything eventually. I still do want to be with her but this is the best for us i guess. I've been going to the gym and boys im finally falling asleep normally after 2 months. Link to post Share on other sites
loveiswar101 Posted December 28, 2016 Share Posted December 28, 2016 Keep it going my friend. Life set up for us to struggle....but thats if you want! Always forward... Link to post Share on other sites
Hopefuleddie Posted January 7, 2017 Share Posted January 7, 2017 Hey, Not texting her was the right move if that's her wish, and also if you have peace that NC will do some good for both of you. Now might be a good time to evaluate the relationship and your vision for the future. Getting some idea as to what could have been done differently be helpful for your future relationship be it with her or with someone else. I am glad you are in the healing process. You will get better soon. You might want to Google some resources on relationship on how men and women process things for to prepare for your relationship. If i may, there is book called men are like waffles women are like spaghetti, and it outlines the thinking process of both men and women, and how helpful understanding this thinking process is to relationships. Hope it's helpful to you. Here is an amazon like to the book: https://www.amazon.com/Men-Like-Waffles-Women-Spaghetti-Understanding/dp/0736919619 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Late Nights Posted January 11, 2017 Author Share Posted January 11, 2017 Update Sooo New Years. We ended up at the same town, in the same hotel, same NYE party, room 1 over from where i was staying. My mutual female friend already planning to out if town to the party n they asked my ex. Before my ex told me to let go and not hold on.. i told her my plans n she brought up the fact that our mutual female friend asked her to go along. She was saying she was 50/50 and didn't know for sure but in the end we ended up seeing each other. More to the story if anyone is interested. But yea after the phone call i initiated NC but that failed. Link to post Share on other sites
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